u/NoSoupThanks

Hello! New here, but been “lurking" for a while.

Thought I’d share a tool I’ve found helpful while armchair-hunting.

I’ve been working on a number of solves (mainly PF and AT) and I don’t know about you, but I’ve used Google Maps a LOT. I’ve also been using Google Earth for lat/long theories and using tools Google Maps doesn’t have.

Here’s one place I had a problem: I think the leftover Os in the PF word search lay out over locations on a map. There are 19 of them. Every time I plot 19 points on Google Maps and want to see them on Google Earth, it’s a nightmare.

Manually copy/pasting was painful and slow. There are sites out there that either cost too much, or they make you install extensions, and even when you do that you’re limited to lists of only 5-10 locations.

Anyway, I found a site that’s super easy and free to use on lists up to 25. I hadn’t seen it mentioned here yet, and wanted to share: https://mapslink.quest/

I just pop in the Google Maps List’s link, and it pops out as a KML file. It also converts lists to GPX, which will be useful if/when I ever decide to be brave and go BOTG. (I’ve been looking forward to using the lingo and sharing here more, and writing “BOTG” just gave me the goose pimples)

I hope this helps someone out there. I know this community has helped me.

I’d also love to hear what tools everyone else has been using. Care to share?

Good luck, everyone! I hope we find one soon.

After 3 years of marriage, my wife (39F) has just come out to me (40M) as asexual. We have a child together, and had loads of great sex in the past. Now she’s an asexual.

I want to respect her and how she wants to go about her life. I will always love her and “no matter what” includes her not wanting to have sex with me or anyone else.

Here’s the thing: this asexual development just doesn’t jive with my sex drive. For a while I thought it was a phase and I’d masturbate every now and then, but now it just makes me sad. Since becoming sexually active, I don’t think I’ve ever gone more than a month without sex, now it’s going on 8 months.

She doesn’t want me with anyone else, and I can’t step out on her. I’d feel terrible, and I don’t think it would be a good example for our kid.

I miss my wife. I wish I could feel her again, or even just tell her I wanted to… but I don’t want her to feel shame or guilt. At this point, if she ever did offer me sexual favors, I’d consider declining because I don’t want her doing something she doesn’t want to do.

I’m also just sad. This isn’t the life I thought I’d be living, and I can’t make it the one I want now without betraying my family.

Has anyone else been in this position? Any and all advice would be appreciated.