u/No_Area7676

Trying to be cool here…

My partner has a young child that I feel he leaves me out of their life because of the drama of his ex and him navigating this new situation. Also because I’m sure the child’s mother does not like me at all for other reasons. Though I try to have patience and let them do their thing with raising their child, I can’t help but feel left out at times. As my partners friends and family see the baby regularly or whenever they ask too. He goes there to care for the child because mom won’t let him watch the child in his own home (child is still young). Him and his ex relationship being very very tumultuous doesn’t help either. I get if I was the mother, I would feel ways about her being around my child, BUT realistically this isn’t just your kid and the baby’s arrival was very abrupt and unplanned. When and what should I say related to feeling left out? I have expressed being patient and allowing time and things getting figured out to let things tell it. But it’s getting off putting. idk exactly what I want but literally being a important person to my partner and their baby important to them. Along with everyone else in his life being acquainted with the baby it’s just weird at times.

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u/No_Area7676 — 4 days ago

How did I get here…

New mom and my daughter is now a few months old. Her father(my ex) does what he can but we are not together and do not get along majority of the time. I didn’t find out it was my ex’s child until later on in the pregnancy (thought it was the current man I was dating baby). Baby is now here, I am struggling enormously to adjust. The “village” is barely here and when they are around it doesn’t take much off of me. It’s crazy how after having the baby I am now seeing SO many red flags between my family and those around me that welcomed or encouraged the baby. The most reliable person is her father but the circumstance we are in just makes everything worse and I feel like absolute shit. I feel guilty at times and how all of this can effect my daughter(I understand it takes two but how everything happened has been a lot for everyone). This is not what I envisioned for myself or my baby at all. I try my best everyday but can’t believe this is my life now. I’m extremely tired all the time and my freedom was snatched away from me immediately and that’s been hard to deal with as well. I feel like I made the biggest mistake ever in my life AND my daughter’s

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u/No_Area7676 — 29 days ago