To alloromantic people who have felt romantic love to their aromantic QPP - what is/was that like for you? Does it make the relationship more difficult?
I'm trying to figure out whether I'd be okay with a QPR with my aromantic friend for whom I've developed romantic feelings. My realisation of these feelings is quite fresh, so I'm still figuring it out -- I only realised that I had these feelings a few days ago. I've told my friend about my romantic feelings and they raised the idea of a QPR.
At times, the idea makes me anxious and I want to distance myself from my friend, but other times it excites me and the idea sounds quite fulfilling.
I'm hoping that the anxiety comes from all the emotional exhaustion of the last few days, because it's all a lot to process, especially given that I strongly value our friendship and am afraid of losing it. But I don't really know right now and I'm still processing.
To be honest, staying friends sounds more difficult than a QPR. I've connected deeply with this person and I'm not sure these feelings would go away without me distancing myself. Even if they don't reciprocate my romantic feelings, they still care about me, and as long as I can still express some of these feelings (they seem okay with this, but we'd talk about it) then I can see myself feeling fulfilled. But again, I'm still figuring it out.