u/No_Fun_924

I grew up in a very spiritual Sikh household. My dad is Amritdhari and my mom probably does even more paath than my dad. Sikhi and Waheguru were always a very natural part of our home, and growing up, I considered myself a very spiritual person.

But my brother passed away at 28, and something inside me changed. I don’t know how to trust Waheguru anymore.

I grew up without a biological brother, and then Waheguru gave me this relationship only for him to be taken from us at 28. I keep thinking: why give us that bond and then take him so young? And it isn’t the only loss our family has experienced. I have lost other closed ones too who I was extremely close to.

I started thinking, this is not fair to us**. Why does my family keep having to lose people so young. Why do other evil people keep getting what they want in life and why are our loved ones taken away from us. I** know Sikhi teaches us about Hukam. Intellectually, I understand that life and death are not in our control. But emotionally, accepting Hukam when it takes someone you love at 28 feels completely different. I don’t want this post to sound like I don’t recognize the blessings in my life. I do. Waheguru has given me a wonderful child, a good husband, loving parents, financial security, a good education and many opportunities in life. I am genuinely grateful for all of those things.
But somehow that makes my feelings even more confusing. I can recognize everything I have been given and still be deeply angry about what was taken away.
Since my brother died, I have been annoyed with Waheguru at a level I have never experienced before. I feel like I am almost holding a grudge against Him. I haven’t found my peace with Guru Sahib again.

I’d especially like to hear from Sikhs who haveexperienced a devastating loss and genuinely became angry with Waheguru or lost their faith for a period of time.

Did you eventually find your way back?

I miss the relationship with Waheguru that I used to have. I just don’t know how to get back there.

Please tell me the car owner survived the accident. It was brutal. I was turning left and saw the authorities on scene

I turned 33 when my daughter was born. I waited until I could call myself ‘well settled’ before going through pregnancy. Mind you I have a business, couple houses, investments and no personal loan (but two mortgages). I could not have thought of kids otherwise. Yes it took maybe a year to conceive as fertility clock waits for no one.

Now, I see 20 years ago who came to Canada on a spousal visa with their husbands and do not have their permanent residency YET popping kids out at the age of 21/23/24. I am not jealous that i had my kid late but idk how they convince each other to have a child. I just don’t get it.
- Do you not think about child care situation?
- Do you not know the responsibility that comes along?
- Does this help with their PR process somehow?

I am thinking of having a kid at 22-24 when I was in university and was not serious in relationship or life seems like a big No for me. But I know these kids got married younger and have been with their spouses for few years but how in the world you justify having a child born in a country where you yourself are not permanent. Maybe they like seeing the Canadian passport atleast given to someone.