u/No_Maintenance_1858

I am a househelp. Last I was here about my job, I asked if you allow your help to rest and someone suggested I should talk to my employer about it and I did. I get one hour off......mostly. small win

Anyway, let's talk about food. I grew up in a home where different people ate different meals. You can already guess that I did not get the good meals. It honestly didn't give me sleepless nights, and I developed resilience. I also developed some sort of eating disorder where I can not eat comfortably in someone's house. I am also a secret member of The Clean Plate society, and I hate wastage. This information is necessary, I promise, lol.

So, my employer has this habit of saying exactly how long she expects things to last. At first, I ignored it, and then I just stopped eating meat because that is what she was usually on about. And I am not even upset or anything, I am just like, kuku/fish, haitafanya nikasirikiwe kwa hii nyumba. I doubt she even noticed.

One time, the husband says that we should be using olive oil for all meals except deep frying. I do 99.9% of the cooking, and most times, the toddler requires a separate meal. They come from a place where stews, ie meat have to be in the fridge at all times, and their cooking requires a lot of oil. I used 1l in 14 days, and all hell broke loose.

There's also some things....offering me food that I am not supposed to have only when it is about to go bad. One time she offered me a chocolate then came back 10 minutes later asking if she can take it back. I guess I wasn't excited enough to gobble it down immediately. I of course told her to have it.

But here is the topper. She said that she doesn't feel safe when I go out with her daughter. That she keeps asking herself if I am talking good care of her, lol.

This is my third month here. A fellow nanny told me that this woman is indirectly asking me to leave and I think she is right, lol.

I might just up and head out and she will tell all her friends that after everything she did for me, lol.........

Did you know that it is possible for you to be a good person and not a kind person?

I am a househelp. I am poor. This is important, lol. I spent the day in hospital, where I was diagnosed with a blood infection. I have to take 5 injections but unfortunately they do not open during the weekend but they gave me the drugs. Mind you......I only paid 10bob for a book. Everything including the drugs were free. I don't even have SHA. Now, I work in westlands. Does anyone know where I can get these two injections for the weekend done at the least possible cost. I already have the drugs. Asanteni

38F looking for a man 50+. I may need to clarify that I am not looking for a father for my children. I need someone for me. I run on coffee, dark humour, and sarcasm. I can hold proper conversation only if it is reciprocated. I am a sucker for good grammar. PS. I only bring good vibes with and without clothes on, lol. Please don't equate vibes to being blonde, lol.

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What are the odds of finding a 50+ man here? I am in my late 30s.

I recently posted a letter written to me by my daughter and I received some lovely comments telling me how lovely it is.

Truth be told, there's different sides to raising children. 16 years raising this girl has been something.

I don't judge parents for the way their kids behave but I always always judge how they react. Children will do things that will leave you racking your brain and wondering if you brought the right kid home, lol

So, my life underwent a drastic change in 2026. I went from having my home(rented) and job, to going back home, being kicked out by my mother and getting a househelp job.

I had to look for accommodation for her during the holidays. I begged for help online and someone came through. This woman picked up my child from town on closing day, fed and housed her for 3 goid weeks without receiving any money from me. When my child was going back to school, she did shopping for her.

Now, a few days after school reopened she told me she was not happy with my daughter's behaviour because she is missing a watch, a tennis ball and a comb which belonged to a neighbour.

I asked my daughter if she took this things and she said no. The woman said that she saw the comb in her school bag. My daughter said that she didn't know that was the comb I was asking about and she didn't think too much into it when taking it. The watch was found, the tennis ball, no.

If I tell you I was livid. I was angry at myself mostly because I put my child in this situation. She always used to take my stuff when we lived together. I had no problem with it. She knows that other people's property should always be respected. I don't know how taking someone's comb did not count as a big deal.

She will be punished. Now I am back to looking for a different place for her to stay but at least now I have some money I can pay for her to stay in the homes that accommodate children whose parents work abroad.

Parenting is hard I say........harder if you are poor, lol.

Mlale poa.

Previously on Dear Diary......I had worked for this woman as a househelp for 2 weeks and had to leave because we were not a good fit. She told me that she would send the money after two weeks.

Two weeks later, I contacted the agency to ask if she had sent the money. They said she hadn't. I texted her, and exactly as expected, she went off on me and acted like she sent the money a long time ago. I wait for the agency to contact me, they don't.

I texted them, and they said that they couldn't send me any money until I came to clear with them. I ask what exactly clearing means because I am far away, and it would cost me like 3k just to get to Nairobi.

I literally beg them, remind them that I was on my feet for more than 13 hours every day except Sunday, I need the money. They refused and said I had to go to their office. I ask them to just deduct their accommodation fees, nothing! Nada!

Yoh....si when it rains it pours....