u/No_Obligation589

The flock went to the vet a month ago and nothing was wrong with anyone but one guy, who was getting better. However I don't see much improvement in a month so I feel like I need to pay them another visit. How should I go about separating the little guy from the others? He's bonded with another budgie I have so I'm worried that his bestie will become worried. He already lost his mate and now he'll probably feel even more stressed when his buddy goes missing.

Main options are catching him during the night (he'd have to wait 4 hrs until the trip in a tiiny carrier because his new one won't arrive on time, and the flock probably won't notice or know right away that he's missing and why exactly he's missing) or doing it just before the trip (flock will know exactly what happened and will know he was taken away). Now that I put this into words I feel like it's obvious which option is better...

When I was 12, I had a 15 year old girlfriend. She was already really abusive and manipulative, but a while ago I started realising that things could've been worse than I realised. In short, she ignored me constantly, sometimes for longer than a month. When she texted me, it was always because she was horny. I was a kid, extremely attached to her, and so depraved of any love and affection from her, that I would do anything to keep talking to her more, but if I couldn't or wouldn't agree to give her what she wanted she just began ignoring me again. I know it was a manipulation, and I know the age gap is a bit controversial, but I feel like I can't call this SA

Sorry for the weird English, I'm Ukrainian. We have 4 budgies, 3 bought by our dad and one rescued by me. We live in a small apartment, there's a living room, bathroom and two bedrooms, my sister lives in the living room with the budgies, and she uses perfumes, body mists and everything else every single day. I threatened her that I'll take the budgies away to my room, which I already did twice, because my family wouldn't replace our teflon pans (hostage worked, we have cast iron pans now) and to trim their nails (my family insisted on keeping the windows open in the living room so I had to take them away to make sure they don't escape, then I returned them. To be honest, this was a bit of an overreaction on my part) Either way, she knows I'm serious and I will take them away if she does something that's threatening their health. Because of that, she started spraying perfume in the corridor and in the bathroom. The problem is, both are next to the living room, especially the corridor, because the door to the living room is constantly open. I don't know how, but the smell keeps reaching the living room, even when she does it in the bathroom with a closed door (How much perfume does she need?? Istg) And I can't tell if this is something I should worry about, since she does it in a different room. I tried to make her move the whole perfuming thing to the bedroom, since this is the furthest room from the living room and it has windows so I could ventilate it instead of just keeping the smell indoors, but she won't do it. What should I do? I really don't want to take them away, whenever I do it my family keeps screaming at me insulting me telling me I'm sick in the head etc and I hate it but I also want to protect my babies

I don't know what I'm doing and why I'm posting this here, I guess I just want to discuss this with a community of people that understands me. I'm doing better now and have an amazing supportive girlfriend and friends that understand me, but I don't think I discussed this with someone who was unbiased towards me. And either way no matter how much I talk about it, it's never enough.

I was around 9 when a person on the internet asked me to exchange nudes. I didn't know what those were, yet I still agreed.

I didn't like the experience so I forgot about it, until I started seeing people selling their nudes to others. I come from a pretty poor family. My mother died when I was 6 and my family moved to a foreign country at 10. My dad couldn't afford a lot of stuff for me. All I saw was an opportunity. I took it without a second thought. I was stupid, I sent anything I was asked for, usually I was just scammed and blocked after that. Some "clients" were straightforward, some tried acting "nice", as if asking "is it okay that I'm 30?" Somehow made them less of a pedophile. One person asked why I'm not moaning on the video. I still wonder if he thought I was doing this for anything other than money.

One person blackmailed me with my pictures. Made me do and send so many things, some of which I wouldn't do for any money on earth. Told me to keep quiet about this, otherwise he'll have to show everyone in court that I sent all of this willingly. I lived with fear and guilt for years. Still kinda do. This was the most traumatic thing that ever happened to me and I will never be the same. It was scary and evil on levels 12 year old me never thought were possible. I felt powerless. He told me all his psychopathic fantasies and all I could do was agree with him. I don't know this person in real life, I can't reach him anymore, I will never be able to get justice. He probably still has those. Maybe not just him. Maybe they all do. Maybe their friends do too. And their friends' friends.

I've had a nightmare I went back to this lifestyle. Basically cheated on my girlfriend. I don't want that to happen. I'm scared of being tempted by the money again

I'll try not to vent but I don't feel well so sorry in advance

I have 4 budgies I share with my dad and my sister, 3 of them were bought by my dad and only one is rightfully mine. My family didn't want to provide them with great conditions, but now I'm finally old enough to do that myself. I got them a 120x132 cm cage, proper perches, toys, diet, brought them to the vet multiple times already. Unfortunately they still live in a living room-kitchen, because this is the only area shared by the whole family and they don't think it's fair for me to have them in my room all for myself. I did get cast iron cookware though.

The problem is: I have depression and very high anxiety, and these birds are basically my reason to live, so I try very hard to provide some with good conditions. I'm afraid I'm trying too hard, I keep disturbing them. They're not tamed and they're very scared of my hands. Today I noticed that their claws are too long and they can't properly grip some perches. My vet is multiple hours away so I trimmed them a bit myself, which went well. I was so scared of hurting them I didn't trim some nails enough though, and now I feel like I traumatized them for no reason. They were very scared during the whole process.

This isn't even the worst thing I've done, another time I caught one of them to remove what turned out to be just a bit of dust on his nose, because I thought his nostril might be clogged

My dad says I'm disturbing them too much, my vet said I should try to worry less about them, and I'm trying, but it's hard. My budgies come from awful places: unethical breeders and a pet shop, and I want to provide them with much better conditions, but sometimes I wonder if the amount of stress I cause them because I'm anxious about everything is worth it, and if they would be better off without an owner like me and any of my intervention

I just want some unbiased opinion and possibly advice. Thanks in advance

I'll try not to vent but I don't feel well so sorry in advance

I have 4 budgies I share with my dad and my sister, 3 of them were bought by my dad and only one is rightfully mine. My family didn't want to provide them with great conditions, but now I'm finally old enough to do that myself. I got them a 120x132 cm cage, proper perches, toys, diet, brought them to the vet multiple times already. Unfortunately they still live in a living room-kitchen, because this is the only area shared by the whole family and they don't think it's fair for me to have them in my room all for myself. I did get cast iron cookware though.

The problem is: I have depression and very high anxiety, and these birds are basically my reason to live, so I try very hard to provide some with good conditions. I'm afraid I'm trying too hard, I keep disturbing them. They're not tamed and they're very scared of my hands. Today I noticed that their claws are too long and they can't properly grip some perches. My vet is multiple hours away so I trimmed them a bit myself, which went well. I was so scared of hurting them I didn't trim some nails enough though, and now I feel like I traumatized them for no reason. They were very scared during the whole process.

This isn't even the worst thing I've done, another time I caught one of them to remove what turned out to be just a bit of dust on his nose, because I thought his nostril might be clogged

My dad says I'm disturbing them too much, my vet said I should try to worry less about them, and I'm trying, but it's hard. My budgies come from awful places: unethical breeders and a pet shop, and I want to provide them with much better conditions, but sometimes I wonder if the amount of stress I cause them because I'm anxious about everything is worth it, and if they would be better off without an owner like me and any of my intervention

I just want some unbiased opinion and possibly advice. Thanks in advance

Hi guys! My budgies live near the kitchen (this is the only option for now), and I'm wondering what are the rules regarding the use of cast iron pans safely to not damage their respiratory system. I got a new set of cast iron cookware, and I'm cooking with olive oil, for reference. Pretty sure the cookware is pre-seasoned but that's about it, and when using it for the first time there was a very strong smell though there was no smoke. Will this keep happening and is this bad for my babies?