Girl dinner & wondering if omission counts as lying
Tonight’s girl dinner is chicken, broccoli, and rice while I sit here overthinking my relationship lol.
My ex and I have been going back over what happened between us, and something I’m really struggling with is how many issues he apparently had with me or our relationship that he never actually communicated to me while we were together. I didn’t know these things were bothering him, so I never had the opportunity to address them, understand where he was coming from, or try to make things better.
He doesn’t consider that lying because he technically never said anything untrue—he just didn’t tell me what he was feeling. I see it differently. To me, if you’re quietly building resentment or having serious doubts about your relationship while continuing to act like everything is okay, there’s an element of emotional withholding or lying by omission there.
Obviously I don’t think your partner is entitled to every single thought that crosses your mind. But if something is bothering you enough that it eventually becomes part of why you end the relationship, I feel like your partner deserved the chance to know there was a problem before it reached that point.
So tonight’s dinner thought: where is the line between simply keeping something to yourself and lying by omission in a relationship?
EDIT: We live together for anyone wondering why we are still talking and my moving has been pushed back because my grandmother has passed and its a lot right now.