u/NoralenPerson

Heey I've been PIMO for a short while and was wondering if there was any one else in the same situation as me that would want to chat

I'm freshly 19 and kinda feeling frustrated to have my parents on my back all the time so chatting with people my age with the same life experience as me would do wonders!

Heey je suis PIMO depuis quelques temps et je me demandais si il y avait des autres dans la même situation que moi qui voudrait parler

J'ai tout juste 19 ans et me sens grave frustré d'avoir mes parents sur le dos h24 donc parler avec d'autres jeunes qui on la même expérience que moi me ferait grand bien!

Everyone under twenty five is getting married in my assembly

And everyone to someone in said assembly or one close by

It's kinda sad to see because it all feels so rushed, even in my old assembly people didn't get married so young so fast

Last year there was a lot of drama because a couple divorced without adultery and so the sister was dissfellowshiped

Another one that just got engaged is a sister just one year older than me(19)and someone I'm close to. it's very obvious that their relationship won't last and that they're mainly together because they grew up together and the feeling of shared circumstances is the closets to love they ever felt but they'll be stuck together because none of them will cheat.

I spent all my life seeing/ hearing of jws marriages go horribly wrong

And yet my mother is starting to get more and more pushy about me getting married or at least courting someone

I think she's scared because my sister left the organization (never officially) because she lives with a man without being married, she thinks that if my sister would just get married she'll be allowed to be treated as someone inactive and not dissfellowshiped

I think she's scared of the same thing happening to me and think that at least if I'm married I'll have someone to "strengthen my faith" or at least just be the link to me and spirituality

I don't know what to do, my friends (worldly) suggested jokingly that I just find another gay PIMO irl and propose a lavender marriage and it's honestly starting to feel like the only option

I could also say some bullshit that I want to preserve myself for god but I know this would backfired and my dad'll send me to bethel or smth (he already tried to fill the application for me)

I planned to not act on my wants to live until I was settled down away from my parents and could think clearly but now this feels like it'll never happens unless I get married or show my parents I have some kind of spiritual project and it makes me a little sick

Should I just pretend to like some guy, court for a while and find whatever reason to not go through with it? This sounds like too much work and makes me feel gross to imagine

Maybe I sound a bit mental but all this discussion about marriage is low-key messing with my head and making me go crazy

Sorry for the rant

heya, i'm 19, baptized for 8 years now (ik worse decision of my life) i'm posting this here bcs my big sister said there was a bunch of 'people like me' here aka young jw that aren't able/ready to leave the organisation yet.

i'm feeling kinda lonely bcs as understanding as my 'wordly' friends are they can't 100% understand me and am just tryna find people who live the same thing as me yk?

I don't really know how reddit works lol but is anyone is a nerdy young queer adult, wanna chat?