I feel so stupid that I let this man into my life while I was meant to be focusing on my health. I spent 14,000 euro anx im back to weekly but it’s not working as well anymore.
What do you think? Did I fuck it up?
Good idea or no?
Also what do you guys do in the 48 hours after? Thank you!
Two months, two months of horrific panic attacks after i discovered this. He said it was because “they were is close friends of over ten years.”
I messaged the women - one didn’t even know his name only his artist name and the other one didn’t message him since June 2025 and said at the end “too many man take advantage of our empathy”.
I don’t know if I should feel sorry for him because how sick do you need to be to do this to someone and lie so compulsively or be angry he was such a calculated human being.
He couldn’t even apologies all his female friends know and couldn’t give a fuck
How do I be okay with him living his life after all he’s done to me? His female friends took his side, they all took his side with hard evidence it’s so hard to process.
Anything Kyle did back was reactive
I dated this guy for five months he did the biggest number on me and I don’t think I’ll ever trust men again it was so horrific.
When we met he wasn’t 100% over his ex of over ten years (I know so stupid) but we really got along so well and I was recovering from loosing my cat and my grandma. Then two months in I realise he has been liking girls photos and I say hey can you stop and he is like nope they are my close friends of over ten years. We end up arguing for two months it becomes highly abusive this man would call me names, shout at me every day for hours to like these women’s photos, watch me have panic attacks and I just turned into a shell of myself I have put on 10kg. I end up breaking up with him as my body literally couldn’t handle it. Before we broke up he reshared this girls photo on Instagram and I’m like who’s that and he is like oh I’ve never seen her you hacked my account…. Yes I’m a technology genius I hacked your account. I left it, I had no more fight in me. Three months after we break up I message that girl as she comes up in my suggested friends on Instagram while I’m in the sauna and she messaged me back straight away sending me the screenshots he was on dating apps most of the time we where together screaming at me saying “there is no other girls” “you think everyone is against you”. The gaslighting was appalling. He even tried to tell me she was a racist and he never wanted to see her again but in the messages he literally asks her out two more times and tried to wait for her in the lobby like a stalker it was really sick and odd. When I asked him he said “oh do you really think I’m that desperate?” Yes, the messages show you are highly desperate. This man is a compulsive lier it’s horrific and abusive and oh so so so so strange. I then decided to email his “good friends of over ten years” - one of them didn’t even know his real name and the other hadn’t replied to him in June/event met him/said he was an acquaintance and unfollowed him and said as her last line “it’s a shame that so many men take our empathy” so she knew and he tried the same shit on her. He also tried to tell me it was my fault he cheated on me because I asked him to stop liking his close friends of over ten years photos…. This was before I knew those girls didn’t even know him or his name.
What is it like to just compulsively lie like this? Did he not think I would email those women to actually say hey this is what your close friend of ten years is doing to women. Like imagine still attempting to abuse me in our last conversation and being so devoid of reality. Why did he scream at me for two months to like photos of women who didn’t even know his name and called him an acquaintance and not his “close friends of ten years” - this means he also was doing the same shit to his ex as he was liking their photos for years and years. He told me his ex left him 3 days after he was in hospital for an appendix issue but I guess that probably wasn’t true.
He also has a disease which can cause vertigo and this man literally would fake having these attacks and then go out on dates with women…. It was insane. Absolutely insane!
He also would say I was the love of his life and soul mate - I’d like to know how he would treat his worst enemy because fucccckkkkkkkkkkk.
He spent 8 hours on the phone so I didn’t tell his family and friends trying to make me the problem and saying everything was my fault he even use to cry but now I know it was all just a big act - he watched me having the worst panic attack of my life then called me a cunt when he wouldn’t show me specifically when he downloaded the dating apps then blocked me.
This man works in the music industry no one too popular but he has a lot of work.
I just want to understand what is the purpose of these men? Why do they actually feel okay doing this to women? Like I’m 33! I don’t think I’ll ever see the world the same again. Don’t they feel bad? Like I would feel so bad and would be like hey
I saw a therapist today and I am working through it. Therapist agrees he was a compulsive lier and abusive and we are going to work on making sure I’m never in this position again. Apparently these men look out at the start and push your boundaries to learn what you will take (it’s literally predatory) and always are victims in how they speak and choose specific women to target and pull on our heart strings - it’s really really sick.