u/North_Ad5691

I am so embarrassed and cringing at myself over this:

2 years ago, a man that I used to go to school with messaged me to ask me out. I denied at the time because of personal reasons. Recently, I had been thinking a lot about him and we still have each other on social media so I was starting to see we had some similar hobbies etc.

I liked one of his Instagram stories and then later me and my friend thought he had a gf so I unfollowed him impulsively until I soon found out he didn't. The 'what if' of having rejected him was killing me so I re-followed him and messaged him apologizing for the unfollow and asking him out. He said yes. But soon after I found out a few things about him and absolutely do not want to date this man.

I feel so embarrassed at my own actions. The problem is he also knows people that I know because we went to the same school. This all reflects badly on me. I've been trying to revise but idk if I just messed up too badly or if there's any way I can manifest this situation to favour me..

So we used to be acquaintances (basically friends of friends) and he wanted to date me a few years back (I was in a relationship). I'm single now and have always been curious about him so I reached back out on social media and asked for us to hangout some day. He happily agreed and has been working on planning it (I think). Problem is I've seen him like a couple of posts or follow accounts on social media that are questionable (like policing the clothes a woman wears/following red pill content). I'm kind of wary now. When I used to know him he was a very kind guy, and we haven't had much of a chat over text right now as it seems like he wants to save it for the date.

I feel like if I say I dont think we're compatible he will be confused because we've barely even talked aside from what we're doing work wise/summer plans. I also would look really crazy sending the posts to him because it'll be clear I stalked him lol. And I am the one who initiated this time so it's bad on me regardless especially since people we both know will probably hear about this... should I just cancel with an excuse? the date is almost a week away