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My husband and I have been together for well over a decade. During that time, vacations have centered around his family.
I’ve gone on family vacations with them for years, and after our last trip I finally told my husband I’m done. I don’t mean I’ll never go to dinner with them or spend time with them. I mean I don’t want to spend my vacations traveling with them anymore.
My MIL is difficult to travel with. I sometimes think she has narcissistic tendencies, although I’m obviously not diagnosing her. She talks over people constantly, interrupts, and will literally change the subject while someone else is in the middle of talking.
The biggest problem for me is boundaries. When we first started traveling together, our rooms would be near each other. We eventually stopped doing that because she would overstep and didn’t seem to understand that my husband and I wanted some privacy.
If we wanted to have dinner alone or do something by ourselves, she would take it personally. Apparently traveling together means being together all the time.
I could go on and on with examples, but I don’t want to write a novel. You get the point. This isn’t one incident. It’s been a pattern over years and multiple trips.
Now future trips are being discussed that would also include my husband’s sister and BIL.
His sister is a different issue. She is an extremely picky eater with a very limited diet, so restaurants can be difficult. She is also extremely casual about how she dresses no matter where we are. I know that sounds petty and, by itself, I wouldn’t care.
My bigger problem is her personality. She can be angry and demanding, and I really dislike the way she treats her husband. She talks down to him and sometimes humiliates him in front of other people. It’s uncomfortable to watch for a few hours, and I don’t want to spend an entire vacation around it.
My husband and I used to have a good balance on family trips. We’d spend time with everyone but also have time alone. We didn’t have to eat every meal together or do every activity as a group. Somewhere along the way that changed, and now these trips feel more like family obligations than vacations.
Here is the biggest thing for me: many times these trips have been our only real vacation of the year.
Vacations are expensive, and vacation time is limited. I want to remember where we went, what we saw, something funny that happened, or a great day my husband and I had together.
I don’t want to remember every trip as: that’s the one where his mother had a meltdown, that’s the one where everyone walked on eggshells, or that’s the one where his sister got angry and humiliated her husband.
I want to enjoy my vacation. I don’t want to spend money on what may be my only trip that year and come home remembering the family drama more than the actual vacation.
I told my husband I’m done. I’m not asking him to choose between me and his family, and I’m not telling him he can’t travel with them. He absolutely can.
I love my husband and love traveling with him. I just don’t want to spend my vacations this way anymore.

So, AITA?
UPDATE: Thank you, everyone, for all the advice and different perspectives. I’ve read through the comments, and I really appreciate everyone who took the time to respond.
We may actually have a path forward, even if it’s just baby steps. My husband’s mother and sister have been talking about wanting to take a South America/Antarctica cruise, and ironically, the dates they’re looking at fall at the same time as my college reunion.
My husband and I have talked about it, and I’m definitely going to my reunion. The part that surprised me in a good way is that my husband actually wants to come to the reunion with me rather than go on the cruise with his mother and sister. So, at least for now, he’s choosing me and something that’s important to me, and I have to admit that means a lot.
On top of that, I have absolutely no desire to vacation anywhere cold 😂, so this may be a natural opportunity for us to start changing the pattern without it becoming a big confrontation or family drama.
Maybe this is the beginning of finding a middle ground where my husband and I can do the things that are important to us while his mother and sister can still take the trips they want to take. We’ll see how it goes, but for now, I’m taking it as a small step in the right direction.
Thanks again to everyone who offered advice, shared their own experiences, or just gave me something to think about.

I’m looking for thoughts from people familiar with medical malpractice cases in Nevada, particularly delayed diagnosis involving spinal conditions.
For roughly two years, I repeatedly sought treatment for symptoms that included upper back and pain between my shoulder blades, balance and gait problems, hand clumsiness, heavy legs, intermittent leg buckling, and other neurological symptoms.
I saw multiple providers during that period, including specialists. Despite the symptoms and documented complaints, no cervical MRI was ordered.
I eventually went outside the local medical system for another evaluation. A cervical MRI was finally performed and showed significant multilevel cervical stenosis and cord compression/flattening. I am now scheduled for a C3–C6 ACDF—a three-level cervical fusion.
There is also disease at C6–7. My current neurosurgeon has decided not to fuse that level right now because it is not currently pushing or compressing anything, and he wants to preserve as much range of motion as possible. However, in a written message, he specifically cited approximately a 3–5% per-year degeneration rate for adjacent-segment issues and said the level can be watched.
That raises my main question. If my cervical condition went undiagnosed for approximately two years while I was symptomatic, how is causation typically evaluated in a Nevada delayed-diagnosis malpractice case?
I understand that I cannot simply say “3–5% per year means they caused 6–10% damage,” and I’m not claiming the percentages can be multiplied by the number of affected levels. What I’m wondering is whether a qualified neurosurgical expert can look retrospectively at the earlier symptoms, records, and imaging and determine whether earlier diagnosis would more likely than not have resulted in less extensive surgery, reduced neurological injury, or a better prognosis.
I have the medical records, symptom chronology, imaging, and the current treating surgeon’s written explanation. I’m not asking Reddit to determine whether malpractice occurred. I’m trying to understand how Nevada attorneys and medical experts evaluate lost opportunity from delayed diagnosis, particularly when the eventual result is a major multilevel cervical fusion and another level must now be monitored.
Has anyone dealt with a similar delayed cervical stenosis or myelopathy diagnosis in Nevada? What evidence ended up mattering most—earlier neurological complaints, failure to order MRI imaging, progression between studies, the number of levels ultimately fused, or expert testimony about what earlier intervention would have changed?