u/Novahistorygrad

My wife and I have been married for 9 years and dated for 4 years before that. Our sex life was pretty good but in the last 4 years, our sex life slowly tapered down to basically dried up. My wife seems pretty happy with it but I miss it. It’s something that plays on my mind and I wonder if it’s me or if her sex drive has changed. It picked up for a bit when we were trying to have a baby but obviously fell again when she was pregnant. Our child is 18 months old and our marriage is still sexless. I know having a child can change things but this problem predates our child being born. We split the house and baby duties pretty equally. I love my wife and am not going to divorce her over this but I miss having sex ( I know stereotypical guy). We have talked about it but she brushes my concerns aside. I don’t want to push too much because I don’t want to nag her about it. What should I do to change or fix this? What do I do if she just doesn’t want to have sex anymore?

I had my, 36m, tonsils taken out 6 days ago, closer to 7 now. I had minor pain in my ears the first two days but almost unbearable pain there since then. It went away for a short time today but has since returned. I know pain in the ear is normal but it lasting this long or this intensity normal? Will it go away soon? My follow up isn’t till Monday 9/14. It’s what’s keeping me from eating and drinking more than the throat pain is! (Yes, it’s all connected to my throat but you know what I mean)