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She has said a number of brash and backhanded things to me and that was really the start of my discomfort. She has “joked” about physically harming me. Alluded to my DH past relationships in ways that seem intentional to try and upset me. She’s been intrusive with my pregnancy even repeatedly touching my belly after asking her not to. Most recently she proclaimed very proudly that my SS was the only person who mattered to her and everyone else was an afterthought. It’s so awkward visiting with her bc it’s clear as day I’m not enjoying my time around her.

I also worry a lot about her overstepping/undermining me when our LO is born. This is bc my SS bio mom is completely absent from his life. So she’s been able to play the role of mom completely unchecked for almost his whole life. All of this has caused me to really isolate and withdraw from her. I feel guilty but don’t know how to move forward. I don’t want to give her behavior a pass bc I believe her words and actions have been intentional. On the other hand I find myself asking do I need to just find a way to not let her bother me? How do I do that though?? 

My DH and I have been married for almost a year and are expecting our first ours baby very soon. My SS13 has been the only child on DH side for his entire life. My in-laws are totally obsessed with SS and shower him with so much attention it borders on being unhealthy. I wasn't nervous about favoritism at first bc the age gap was so large until MIL (who I already don’t really care for) made an interesting comment.

We had all come over for dinner and she made some pretty generic tacos claiming they were for SS. She said they were his favorite (they’re not) and so everything she did today was just for him. Then very loudly and proudly says ”the only person that ever matters is SS everyone else is just an afterthought.”

I was bothered by the comment being I was sitting right across from her heavily pregnant with her second grandchild. No one really acknowledge her comment and I could tell it didn’t fully sit right with DH either. Yet, we both said nothing.

Should I be bothered? How should I address things like this in the future? This isn’t the first thoughtless comment MIL has made but it is the first one that feels like it involves my baby.

I’ve been married for almost a year to my husband who has a 13 year old son. I didn’t expect becoming a stepmom to be so difficult but it’s been a hard transition. I’ve shared my struggles a few times on here but deleted them after another community found them and took them out of context. 

My newest struggle happened a few days ago and I’m just looking for advice. I am 7 months pregnant with my first child and my husband’s second. My SS has been the only child on my husband’s side for his entire life. He is a classic example of the “golden child” and all of my in-laws are OBSESSED with him. I would truly describe their infatuation with him as unhealthy. It is unlike anything else I have ever seen before. I wasn’t worried about any favoritism once my son is born bc the age gap will be so large. Something  happened this weekend though that changed my mind and I just want to know if I’m overreacting. 

Me, my husband, SS, and BIL had some errands to run that required us to barrow my BIL’s massive lifted truck. As soon as I got into the truck I realized it wasn’t a smart idea for me to be hoisting my 7 month pregnant self in and out of it. Nonetheless I tried to power through it expecting I’d get a little help from at least one of the 2 1/2 men. Well no one ever helped me… not once and we made multiple stops. Despite me being visibly uncomfortable the entire time. You know who both my husband and BIL did helped though? My SS… and I guess it just really hurt my feelings and reminded me that this kid is everyone’s top priority no matter what. They’d rather make sure he’s safe before ever considering me and the unborn newest member of this family. Even just typing this out right now has made me emotional. Is this a stretch or do I have right to be hurt/concerned?