How to gix wakings of 5 and a half month old
I will have pretty big contex here as i am SO DESPERATE for help.
My baby boy used to sleep through the night with only one wake or none up until three and a half months at that time he was a bad day sleeper but at night was amazing. Having i. Mind he had a bedtime routine and slept swaddled after turning 1 month he began sleeping in the Snoo however had no major issues when sleeping in regular bassinet. Only thing that would wake him was gas which is not an issue anymore. Also taking in rwgard he would fall asleep either by rocking or jumping on the pilates ball (it tool 30 secs literally)
However around the three and a half month mark he began being harder to settle and having more frequent wakes, at some point i moved him to sleep in bed with me which helped at the beginning but after a week or so made no more difference. I started him on strict daytime schedule waking up at 7am having 2 hr wake window then a 1hr nap from 9-10 than a 2 hour nap from 12-2pm (during which i would resettle a couple of times) and final nap at 4:30-5:00pm and bedtime around 7:30 sometimes 8 pm. Also tried adding a fourth nap eventually and adjusting bedtime to 8:30-9pm. I tried making the wake window longer/shorter, however whatever i do it does not change the end result of him waking up constantly. First of with a bunch of false starts sometimes after 30/45 or 50 mins then sometimes he got in a 2 hour strech but sometimes its only an hour. Only after 12am does he actually have 2-2.5hr streches. Also, getting him down at the beginning of the night takes a minute but for all the other wakes he feels me getting on the bed and laying him down and if not asleep enough he starts hitting around with his hands and immediately wakes. At this point i dont even know when he wakes because of hunger or something else so i offer the boob whenever convinient. Past three nights he wakes up after an hour of sleep and just screams whether he is being held rocked or bounced on the pilates ball. Tonight i tried letting him cry it out after i was unable to get him back to sleep but it resulted in constant screaming for 40 minutes to the point that when i went in to get him he was swollen from crying.
His daytime sleep has gotten a lot better he can do an hour strech without resettling and is able to fall asleep in the stroller which did not use to be a case. He has around 3.5 hour daytime sleep and i try to have wakeup time at 7 am but je usually wakes up around 6/6:30 and i just cant handle im too tired so i have to get him back to sleep which sometimes results in 8am wake up.
Also, when he was a small baby just returning the paci would help resettle, now it does nothing 🥹
What should I do?? Please help 🥺