I need some advice for dealing with a problem in my band.
My band has been together for 5 years. We started off in college and were one of the bigger bands in our scene. As we aged out of that, we are smaller in our local scene but have no problem getting a crowd of like 20-30 on our own. We were all very good friends, and very productive for most of this time. I love all of these guys but things have been hard lately.
Over the last year, one member (A) has had to move away for work. He is barely within driving distance, and rarely has time to come to anything. He has to be begged to record anything. We have to turn down a significant number of gigs due to his absence. Otherwise, he is a great friend and he is an excellent musician. He doesn’t have the time but does not want to quit the band.
Another member of our band (B) has started a completely one-sided feud with another member’s girlfriend, rarely makes time for anything, and is generally unreliable. His performances lately have been noticeably bad to audiences, even though he is the most capable musician in the group. I get the sense that he think he doesn’t need to practice because he is so talented.
What would you do here? These issues have been making progress impossible for us. Finding replacements for these guys would be the end of our friendships, which I loathe to do.