u/Odd_Apartment9714

I don't know where to start. Sorry if this is jumbled. We've been together a short amount of time. Like 7 months. After finding out we are pregnant- which I didn't even think I could have kids anymore due to health issues... It came as a happy surprise.

Cut to the past 2weeks.. his mom who lives hundreds of miles away due to work comes home. We live in her home because she's only there once every 3 or so months. We tell her we're pregnant and she's happy.

She and I begin talking the next day when my partner is at work and she tells me all these things about his executive dysfunction, inability to keep up with a household, and even the years of damage he was hiding at the house he rented from her previously. It was bad. She showed me pictures.

I sort of knew something was up when he didn't clean up after himself around the house, but I didn't want to overstep and tell him he needs to clean up, I was going thru a lot of morning sickness as well, when I did ask him to clean he always had an excuse or would put it off.

So I confront him because I start getting scared. I say I need a safe place for the baby and your mom doesn't want us in her house due to the conditions she came home to. She doesn't want history to repeat itself. Suddenly, he tells me I'm a bad partner because I didn't greet him when he got home from work one day. He is attacking an old tattoo I got years ago. Suddenly when I voice my concerns he's bringing up things from my past.

Maybe I'm just pregnant... Maybe he's right? But I can't make sense of any of this or how to get out of it.

I blocked him this morning and had him take me to my dad's house we're going to go on a family vacation and I think when I get back I'm going to find somewhere else to go. I'll attach messages please let me know if I'm out of line here. Sorry for that trauma dump.

Edit: I'm not asking if I should keep the baby, I'm doing this. I didn't expect this. But I did want him to be part of it. Please go easy on me.