I’m curious, how many of you know that their partners or themselves ended up with the person they met are opening up the marriage? Are there any statistics on that?
I’m really disappointed in my partner today. We had plans to go out tonight and watch and movie and have dinner, but that didn’t work out because she went out with her husband and got too drunk, they were watching a soccer match with her whole family, and apparently they had to much fun. I’m happy she had a good time. I’m just sad it impacted our time together.
I told her I’m disappointed and not angry, but I’m having a hard time dealing with the feelings because I’m traveling for a week on Thursday, and then a week later she leaves the country and is gone for 3 more weeks. Then later in July she leaves again. On the 18th we will have one date before she takes her long trip.
But her travels make every date have more importance. Ultimately, there is a part of me that feels she chose her family over me and is doing so all summer, and I’m feeling the sting of being a secondary. 🥺
I met a woman who I became partners with, who is married to a man. They have an open marriage. Both are bisexual and he has a male partner as well.
As time passed, I realized that because her husband is her primary and we live about an hour away from each other, that I wasn’t getting all of my needs met. So I told her I wanted to date, and I’ve been on that journey. I’m about to have two dates, one on Saturday and one on Monday, seeing my partner in between on Sunday.
This was not planned, it’s just how the scheduling worked out.
When I told her about my date on Monday, she got really upset and I can feel her discomfort. I’m having a hard time/feeling guilty about letting her down in some way. I am new to polyamory so I guess I’m wondering, is this just a part of it? I remember feeling so jealous of her husband in the beginning, but after a while it went away. What can I do to reassure her? I know that sex isn’t even on the table yet, but I imagine it will be at some point. I really don’t want to lose her, she is such a dynamic, funny, interesting woman with such a rich life. I just like being around her and being in her energy. And yes, I’ve definitely fallen for her. I just need to take care of my needs too.