(30f) (25m) splitting costs
Travel costs
Hello! I (30f) currently do all the traveling to see my partner (25m) - I am American and he is Canadian- he states currently he doesn't feel like he would feel safe here- and I get it, me either 😅
Our first visit was a group vacation- and I flew to his country and we did cost sharing for lodging.
My 2nd trip out there i paid for my flight and our hotel, he paid for most of our meals and the few museum admissions we went to- besides when we met up with my friend, who i covered the bill for our table then..
We are now planning the 3rd visit and he asked if I could stay longer this time- 10 days instead of an extended weekend like normally.. I would love to- but I'm a paraplegic and on a fixed income/ssdi and trying to also save for when we move in together next year- hes also saving for a DP on a home, but still is lucky enough to be able to stay with family for pretty low rent.
I'm conflicted to ask him to help pay for my lodging because its adding up quickly and God forbid I use a ton of my savings and things dont work out for us and now I'm out thousands of dollars?
What do you guys think?