u/Ok-Environment-9550

It feels so ridiculous whenever I see someone having the most childish takes or pitying their millionaire idols and then i go to their profiles and they are people in their 30's or 40's or something....

And i dont mean to say that you can't enjoy kpop when you're grown, im also grown! But dang, my frontal cortex has developed so im not gonna pretend that idols dont do this to make money and that they are really careful with their image bc of this reason.

That's the main goal of their managers too. PLEASE you are old enough to understand that if an idol asks for approval before posting something, it's not cause "boohoo mean label" it's simply bc they wanna make sure that whatever they post is brand and ambassadorship friendly.

Stays need to understand that when i.n sends something on A PUBLIC PLATFORM and he says "oh nooo dont share it, im shy" he is just doing it to feed parasocial and to do fanservice!

They need to understand that y'all being obnoxious AF about hyunjin wearing a ballet outfit, and yall had NOTHING to do what his final outfit of choice. He wore a prince outfit CAUSE HE WAS NEVER GOING TO WEAR AND ACTUAL TUTU be freaking for real ffs. "Have we seen the same episode?" yeah and he was just doing fan service please, grow up! I beg you! He was never going to wear a freaking tutu unless he wanted to 😭😭😭

Stays need to understand, or at least inform themselves, that certain positions open all the time in labels. And if you keep up with Div1 you'd see that your dumb truck did nothing. They did not fired anyone bc of that truck, that those positions are hiring all the freaking time and that they only thing they managed was to waste money and to cause drama within an already toxic fandom.

I am ok with making friends. I am apparently rather good at first impressions and even thought I am not the centre of the party I know how to "mingle" and have a good time. But time and time again, ever since I was a teen, whatever friends I have, eventually stop replying. No matter if it's a friendship of decades or months, it always ends up happening. And the older you get, the harder it gets to meet new people, so now im in a position that after my two last friends, the ones i had since school, have also stopped replying.. well, I'm on my own. And I truly don't know how because the "it's everything good?" never works. It usually happens when they find some new friend, which sucks cause it makes me feel like a temporary solution.

Any ideas on how to break this pattern? Any ideas to make a friendship deeper and more meaninful and not just something temporary? I'm always the first one and the last to reach out. I always propose plans, but people never like those unless it's something very ver very quick and low effort like going for a coffee. Sometimes i even struggle getting people to agree to one of those. Am I hopeless?