u/Ok-Love8767

Released 8 years ago today! 😆

Before I realised was Demisexual I was miserable and not so optimistic about the future about of the lack of experience that I have with the opposite sex as I’ve stated to get older. Now I’v been feeling a lot better about myself since the summer of last year and I’m looking forward to see what happens in my life.

I know other people’s experiences with having the Demi identity has been different but mine has changed for the better. I’ve found a good sense and a peace of mind because I realised I was Demisexual after years of not identifying my emotions when it comes to crushes, attraction, the opposite sex and etc. It has me made feel more comfortable and confident in my own skin and I’m able to not follow others by doing my own thing instead without having a care in the world.

I got bullied so badly by a group of older teenager boys as a teen that I had fearful avoidance I became scared of people in general due to this I didn’t if some people were genuinely or not and had a tendency to push people away to protect myself. I’m still recovering from these issues as an adult. But I’m trying to look to the future instead of my past it hasn’t been easy but I’m glad to share it with you all and sometimes talking about iwhat’s on your mind helps

Has anyone had a familiar experience?

As a autistic black 30 year old female I always thought I was weird for not wanted to hookup with a random unlike what people do in this society because I always wanted a boyfriend not in a traditional sense (which it made difficult for me to connect to the allo world and boys that I genuinely liked as I got older) and what really got me was feeling left out of my female friend group in high school because were boy obsessed and it go worst when Twilight came out(I found the team Jacob and Edward debate pure nonsense to me. I just saw them as a pasty vampire and a half naked werewolf the whole story got bored to me quick when the third movie came out and haven’t bore to see the last two parts either).

The Demi word has always been there for me without me even knowing and I’m glad I’ve come to terms with it last year because it’s given answers a lot of unanswered questions about me and my life.

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I’ll go first I don’t always watch it all time because it’s something that doesn’t get me off as much if I’m being honest. I only get off to one or two scenes which I’ve seen before and then I’m satisfied for the rest of the day. ☺️

Does anyone else feel the same?

I was 29 when I realised I was Demisexual and it’s nearly been a year since I made that discovery last year in June. But I’ve always felt this way since I was teenager unlike most of my peers in high school. I wasn’t attracted to most of the boys in my high school at the time but I ending up really being into one boy and the crush I had on him lasted for a few years after I left school and college

About 5 or 6 years ago in my mid twenties a guy moved in next door to me and at the time I thought had a crush on him when in reality I had I made up an idea of him in my head once I realised I was Demisexual years after what had happened. I realised that I craved an emotional connection with a guy who clearly didn’t feel the same about me and never did and that’s ok.

Plus I didn’t know him very well I had heard bad things about him but only wanted to see the good side of him because I thought most people were lying and I didn’t believe them at the time.

He didn’t have the best reputation when come to having relationships with women. He engaged in mostly causal relationships instead of relationship romantic ones and this made me so upset because I thought I had done something wrong because i wasn’t like other girl he was into

And i stupidly thought at the time maybe if I was like those girl then he would like me.

I’ve learn a huge lesson from this and back on it now and laugh.

He wasn’t the right guy for me at all.

Rejection is apart of life and sometimes it’s a good thing.

Although I can be a bit shy at first I really wanna try and make more friends this year and connect with other Demisexual people like myself.