u/Ok-Lunch-5850

Excuse any mistakes English is not my first language

I’m 20F and have been with him 21M for a few months. He’s my first relationship and he would be the first person I would have sex with. But I am a virgin and it has always been a huge embarrassing insecurity of mine because I’m too old to be one and I have just hid it or avoided that topic. He’s showing interest in hooking up and I was planning on just not telling him and getting it over with so I can be experienced but I am nervous that if there is any pain he’ll find out. Is it worth telling him beforehand? I kind of don’t want too I am too ashamed of it

I’m also a stick with legs attached. I always hear men complaining about girls being too bony or not having enough to look at or grab. I want to have sex with him but i don’t look good I don’t want to disappoint when I take my clothes off. Plus I don’t have big boobs or butt which makes it worse and I just feel bad for him. I am trying to gain weight so maybe in some months I will look better I hoppe
How do I work with this?

i’m 19f and my brother is 32m. we both currently live at home with our mom.
for months he’s been eating food that i buy with my own money. cookies, bakery items, snacks, leftovers, takeout, pretty much anything. every time i tell him to stop, he apologizes, offers to pay me back, says he “can’t help himself” because he’s dieting or stressed from work and the gym, or tells me i should just keep my food in my bedroom instead of the kitchen because he’s already warned me he’ll eat it if he sees it.
i’ve told him multiple times that i don’t want reimbursement. i just want him to stop taking my food. i’ve also told him i’m not storing food in my bedroom because that’s not what bedrooms are for, some food needs to be refrigerated, and i don’t think managing his eating habits is my responsibility.
this has been going on for months. i even had a conversation with him before where i explained that if a roommate or coworker kept taking food out of the shared fridge, people would think that was rude too. we even had a small family conversation about him stopping. he said he’s stressed from work and school and how he can’t help it and to just hide them for him.

the final straw was cookies. i bought a pack from the grocery store. he saw them when i got home and asked if he could have one. i said yes. before bed i put the rest at the back of the pantry. the next morning the entire pack was gone before i’d even had one.
when i confronted him, he immediately started saying my name wasn’t on the food, it was in the shared kitchen, and he could eat whatever he wanted. he told me to “go cry,” “call the cops,” and kept saying it was “just cookies.” he also kept saying he’d already warned me he couldn’t control himself and that if i really cared about him i’d hide the food from him.
after arguing for a long time, he finally agreed he’d stop eating my food and that if he wasn’t sure whether something belonged to me or our mom, he’d ask first.
later that day i used the money he’d paid me back to buy replacement cookies. i sent him one final text saying these cookies were mine, asking him to stop taking my food, and asking him not to make me yell before he took me seriously. looking back, i probably shouldn’t have sent it because it restarted the argument.
he came home furious. he said i was asking for a fight, accused me of taking my anger out on him, brought up personal things i’d told him in confidence, and the argument escalated way beyond what it should have. afterward he came into my room with a gift, asked me for a hug, and basically acted like everything was fine again. he later told me i shouldn’t have instigated things, that respect goes both ways, and that i should have expected a bad reaction because of the way i spoke to him.
my mom thinks i’m making too big a deal out of this and says i should’ve just hidden the food in my room to avoid the whole situation.

and now he’s yelling at me and calling me entitled and selfish and that i just think the world owes me something and how i just want to control him and take my anger out and humiliate him when i brought up some mean things he said just now (it’s the morning after)

he’s prob gonna tell my mom about it and they’re both going to yell at me

am i overreacting for not wanting my food touched or should i leave it and am i being selfish?