I'm twenty... and I've never even been in a talking stage with someone.
I'm 20F, and I've never been in a relationship. I'm in my 3rd year of uni, and I don't get apprached my guys often (ive been approached maybe 2 times that I am aware of). I am a poc and my school is predomenatly asain/white.
But even in highschool, I was never chosen. I remember during prom season, a guy told his friends that since he had no prom date, he would constantly joke that he would consider going out with me. (He was basically saying that the pool of prom dates was so bad that he would choose the very last girl as an option).
I didn't really notice that I wasn't desirable till I noticed that guys would make lewd jokes and talk about other women when I was with them. When a girl they deemed attractive was there, they became kind and sweet.
And now I'm 20, I've never been out on a date and to be honest, I don't know if anyone would choose me. I'm involved in my school, I'm an officer in clubs, and I have my own Bible study group as well. I workout, I'm not overweight or anything. I often get a lot of girls asking me for my workout routine or diet tips... even though I don't diet or have a rigorous workout routine.
But I will say I don't think I have the prettiest face. I have the clearest skin, but I still wear makeup and it looks bad on me, even when it's usually the tried and true routine.
But the thing is, I truly want to explore, but I don't want to have sex just yet. I just want someone to get to know me for who I am... not for what I can give at the moment.
I don't really talk to men and I'm trying to get over that, but how do I put myself out there? How do I show that I'm interested in someone? How do I get others to be interested in me, but not in a "pick me" way... it's just that I don't think people can tell if I'm attracted to them. (I often look the other way or avoid them)
Do you guys have any advice?