u/Ok-Risk-2628

So, I wanted to share a strange experience that’s been on my mind. A few months ago, I posted in a Facebook group for girl gamers, just wanting to make some new friends. One girl replied, and soon we were a group of four—three girls plus me. There was a lesbian couple in the group, plus one other girl, and we started gaming together. At first, it was all fun—just joking around, lots of banter, and I felt really included.
But then, the lesbian couple kept joking about flirting with either one of them, and I thought they were both okay with it. It started off as fun banter, but then one of them started nitpicking me—comments in a Snapchat group. At first, I brushed it off as her humor, but then it got more serious. Over the headset, she said, “Why don’t you guys just fuck already, because all you ever do is flirt.” I didn’t know what to think—I thought maybe it was a joke, but something didn’t sit right. I mentioned it to one of the other girls in the group, and she just brushed it off, saying, “She’s just joking.” But a part of me couldn’t shake it.
Then, ironically, after four months of talking online and never meeting up, I coincidentally met another girl who lived near them. We were on FaceTime one night, and a guy who knew them made a passing comment—just something like, “Oh, she knows you from here.” I told the girls about it—just casually, nothing major. A couple of months later, I went out on a night out to where this girl lives, and it coincidentally turned out to be where they live too. Then, I got a random message from one of the girls saying, “Oh, I saw you on Snapchat maps—oh, you’re over here, gal, what are you doing over there?” And then her girlfriend chimed in, saying, “Oh, she’s dying to know why you’re over here.” And then, right after that, the original girl said, “Oh, and by the way, tell your friend to stop talking about me.” That was it for me—I immediately left the group and sent them a message saying I didn’t want to be friends with them anymore. The next day, I got a message from one of the girls—one of the girlfriends, not the one making the comments—and she immediately got defensive, saying they were only joking. She was really confrontational in her messages and not very nice about it. Have I just overthought the entire thing? They both got defensive over it when I confronted them. Have I overthought the entire thing?

So, I wanted to share a strange experience that’s been on my mind. A few months ago, I posted in a Facebook group for girl gamers, just wanting to make some new friends. One girl replied, and soon we were a group of four—three girls plus me. There was a lesbian couple in the group, plus one other girl, and we started gaming together. At first, it was all fun—just joking around, lots of banter, and I felt really included.
But then, the lesbian couple kept joking about flirting with either one of them, and I thought they were both okay with it. It started off as fun banter, but then one of them started nitpicking me—comments in a Snapchat group. At first, I brushed it off as her humor, but then it got more serious. Over the headset, she said, “Why don’t you guys just fuck already, because all you ever do is flirt.” I didn’t know what to think—I thought maybe it was a joke, but something didn’t sit right. I mentioned it to one of the other girls in the group, and she just brushed it off, saying, “She’s just joking.” But a part of me couldn’t shake it.
Then, ironically, after four months of talking online and never meeting up, I coincidentally met another girl who lived near them. We were on FaceTime one night, and a guy who knew them made a passing comment—just something like, “Oh, she knows you from here.” I told the girls about it—just casually, nothing major. A couple of months later, I went out on a night out to where this girl lives, and it coincidentally turned out to be where they live too. Then, I got a random message from one of the girls saying, “Oh, I saw you on Snapchat maps—oh, you’re over here, gal, what are you doing over there?” And then her girlfriend chimed in, saying, “Oh, she’s dying to know why you’re over here.” And then, right after that, the original girl said, “Oh, and by the way, tell your friend to stop talking about me.” That was it for me—I immediately left the group and sent them a message saying I didn’t want to be friends with them anymore. The next day, I got a message from one of the girls—one of the girlfriends, not the one making the comments—and she immediately got defensive, saying they were only joking. She was really confrontational in her messages and not very nice about it. Have I just overthought the entire thing? They both got defensive over it when I confronted them. Have I overthought the entire thing?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how I’m super attuned to people’s emotions—I often sense when something’s off, even if their words say one thing. It’s like their tone, body language, and the words themselves don’t line up. Has anyone else gone through this? And how do you trust that gut feeling without doubting yourself when they push back?

I’ve been thinking a lot about how I’m super attuned to people’s emotions—I often sense when something’s off, even if their words say one thing. It’s like their tone, body language, and the words themselves don’t line up. Has anyone else gone through this? And how do you trust that gut feeling without doubting yourself when they push back?

AIO Hey everyone, I game with a couple who are in a relationship, and one of them jokingly says on headset that I’m flirting with one or both of them. I do play along with the banter sometimes, but then their other half makes darker comments in the group chat—like, ‘Why don’t you two just fuck already and get it over with, because all you ever do is flirt.’ And things like imagine sending each other private messages all day #flirting Has anyone else dealt with this kind of thing? I recently stopped talking too them both over it and cut off the friendship but they confronted me and told me it was all jokes and got very defensive over it so now I feel like I’ve made the wrong decision and overthought the entire thing ?

TLDR ended friendship over backhanded comments saying I was flirting with them?