u/Ok-Secretary-740

Writing this from a hotel somewhere FAR away from my abuser after months of nightmare fuel life. I went ahead and posted about them to a few places over time here, but I just want to say:

If your cat is only screaming around this person, in their home with them, and then you leave, and it settles, then maybe that is an indicator. Please listen to your animals. They know a lot. I wish I had before.

Being on the other side is so liberating. I have new challenges ahead. You CAN escape. It's possible. After I left, she tried to pretend to lose 10 years of memories and use my old nickname and act like someone had killed me. Weird as fuck. They will be weird when you leave, be prepared for that. I took myself and the cat first, then let my friends help with the rest. Please trust your friends, too, if they're good people. I wish I had sooner.

There has to be something I can do. Because just yesterday while i was cleaning and packing she out of nowhere dropped a housechat bomb of "sorry i messed up these taxes ON TOP of all the others, so now I owe over half the house money from the sale. Please dont yell at me :(" We said it was coming out of my ex's cut, but i cant take this anymore. Im on disability payments, and i have to still pay this houses utilities too... i pay everything for her still. Even phone line...

For those new i am selling my home because my ex is a laziness-based lunatic. She routinely smears shit all over our bathroom tub walls and leaves fist sized period gore everywhere, to the point its caused us to lose like 4 pairs of shoes among countless other things totaling into the thousands. She is jobless and claims to be disabled but for 10 years refused to do anything about applying for aid properly even with my help. She owns the home we live in solely. She racked up 12k of property taxes she cannot pay and will ONLY pay from selling this place, and now apparently also this which she AGAIN claims to only have just found out about. She is reaching levels of trying to ruin the lives of all 3 of us she brought here as a tennant (including her former husband, me, who has seizures) i have never seen before. I dont know what else to do because we need the money from the house sale to help recoup all the items she destroyed and continue with moving elsewhere... and i am doing everything in my power to sell this home after she sat on her ass refusing to do so for an additional 2 years. I dont qualify for anything loan wise due to my credit score or lack thereof (working on that this month) but i am beginning to feel there has to be another way to get the 10k we need from this. I just dont know. Im sticking it out as i always have but i am terrified shes lying about this too. The dishonesty and the fact she couldnt even tell me in person... meanwhile she went on and on for months abt prolly dying of cancer only for it to be weight issues... while i barely eat lately to afford what we need.

What can i do? I dont think i can afford a lawyer and she has less than $100 to her name i dont even know if it would be worth it. Is this normal? To find out you owe even mire back taxes after consulting the only free financial help we have as a program like once? I feel i am unnecessarily stressing but if anyone has been thru fraud and financial abuse on top of the norms how did you figure it out? I want to financially and wholly independent from this awful woman but im scared. She loves suicide baiting and making me look insane too. I just... i dont know what to do. I am trying to be calm and rational but the only loans i can take out are extremely predatory. Is there even a safe 'bad' loan option? Am i stuck with her?

Any advice appreciated thanks.