u/Ok-Win3171

Hello all! I’m looking into starting cloth diapering part time (will still use disposable overnight) for my 3 month old. The top brands I’m interested in are kinder and Redwood. I think pockets would be best as I like how they are just 1 step like disposables. From what I’ve read, it looks like the yellow kinder inserts are the best. I see flats are probably cheapest but I don’t want to deal with folding. Does anyone have experience with either kinder or redwood or both and which pockets do you prefer? I also am maybe interested in the kinder hybrid covers because it seems more budget friendly but it seems like it may be harder to clean inserts once she starts solids vs cleaning the AWJ pockets. My 3 month old has chunky thighs and wears size 6-12 month clothing if that matters!

I’m pretty much exclusively pumping during the day for my 3 month old as she will only latch when half asleep and swaddled in the night. I mainly use my spectra, but have the momcozy m5 wearable and the motif Luna aura glow wearable. Neither of the wearables will empty me or get close. For example, this morning I wore my momcozy m5 for 30 minutes and got 3.5 oz. I pumped with my spectra right after and got another 5.5 oz… I’ve heard people say the eufy is the best wearable but want to know if it’s going to be close to my spectra output if those other 2 wearables don’t get close to emptying! I don’t know if I should spend the money on the eufy or just accept I’m stuck with my spectra lol Thanks in advance for any input.

This is not exactly breastfeeding related but I figured there was some moms/parents here that could help.

I just had my second baby 5 weeks ago and have to return to work really soon(like within the next week). My partner and I have a 2 year old toddler and it has been really hard managing him and the baby. When we have nothing going on, my partner is on toddler duty and I always take care of the baby. My partner is on paternity leave from his full time job for 12 weeks but he has been doing his side hustle job most days. Sometimes he is busy most of the day and I take care of both kids. It can be overwhelming for just me sometimes but I manage. My second baby is way more challenging than my first was. She can not be set down like 90% of the time. She has to be sleeping in my arms or on top of my chest most of the time. She has to be bounced on an exercise ball sometimes just to get her to fall asleep. The only time my partner really has to manage the baby is when I ask him to feed her a bottle (only because I need to make sure she will take one from him when I’m at work since I breastfeed) or when I need to take a shower… Every time I do this and she gets upset during that time, my partner seems extremely stressed and doesn’t seem to have patience for the baby or the toddler. Just tonight while I showered for 15 minutes and came out to find her crying, he was already angry with the situation. When I tried to talk to him about it, he told me if I didn’t like the way he handled things I should do it myself. I remember when my first was a baby and I had to go to work, my partner did have a hard time and was feeling depressed sometimes but he managed and definitely bonded with our baby. This time around he doesn’t seem that bonded. He doesn’t ever ask to hold her or want to take care of her unless I ask. He just wants to set her down if I hand her to him. I’m a part time night shift nurse so I work weird long hours and daycare would not be an option for help. We have always worked opposite hours so we won’t need outside help. I also don’t have any family close that could help my partner out on the nights I need to work. My partner and I split finances 50/50 and unfortunately my finances are not great right now and I need to return to work for the income. My gut is telling me he won’t be able to hand it or my baby will be left to cry longer than I’m comfortable with. Any advice or suggestions are welcome. Please nothing mean that would be unhelpful.