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My worry

As a deist, I have a worry about my own position. Deism encourages individual thinking: no clergy, no doctrine, just each person reasoning their way to God. Christianity, by contrast, is held together by shared belief: a community, a creed and leaders who keep everyone roughly on the same page. My worry is that individual thinking has no ceiling. When everyone reasons alone, you can't know how far any one person's thinking will go, or whether it will end somewhere harmful, to others or to the faith itself. The strongest objection is that shared belief has caused far bigger disasters. Crusades and holy wars weren't led by lone thinkers; they were carried out by groups acting together on a common certainty. A lone extremist can only do so much damage without followers. That's true. But a community at least has guardrails: shared norms that catch a person before they drift too far. And that's where the real problem lies. Christians have churches, and Muslims have mosques. Where do people like us go? Deism's greatest strength, having no institution, is also its greatest weakness: there's nowhere to gather, compare our thinking and keep each other honest. Is there really a community for people like us, or are we each building our guardrails alone?

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u/OkAdvantage4434 — 10 days ago

65% DFI and doctor suggesting TESA — honestly pretty worried

Hey guys, just looking for some advice/experiences because I’m kind of freaking myself out at this point.
My semen results have been pretty bad:
0% morphology
2% motility
concentration around 1 million/mL
volume 3 mL
liquefaction around 30 mins–1 hr
My DFI also came back at 65%.
I don’t smoke and I barely drink, and I’ve already stopped drinking completely. I’ve also been taking vitamins/treatment for a while now. I’ve basically gone through about 3 spermatogenesis cycles hoping things would improve, but unfortunately the numbers have stayed pretty much the same.
My doctor is now suggesting TESA. I’m open to doing it, but I’m honestly scared that it won’t make much difference and that I’ll eventually end up having to use a donor.
Has anyone here had numbers this bad and gone through TESA/TESE? Did it actually make a difference for you, especially with the DNA fragmentation?
Also, is there anything else I should be looking into before going down the TESA route? My wife has no fertility issues, so at least on her side everything seems okay.
I know nobody here can diagnose me and I’m obviously following my doctor’s advice. I’m just trying to hear from people who’ve actually been through something similar because right now my brain is going straight to the worst-case scenario.

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u/OkAdvantage4434 — 2 months ago