u/OkAttitude8762

Btw English isnt my first language

So me and my BF are together for about 9 months now, not super long not short.
Untill now we have a good relationship, we had some discussions like every relationship has but we were both very mature and handled it well.
He has a friend which i am not a fan of to be honest and i told him this. This friend of him is very disrespectfull with his jokes and once he made a joke about my Bf’s parents which really crossed the line for me. I have never met him but i told my bf that this is goingtoo far and that he should really consider what kind of a friend this is but anyway its his own choice right.
Fast forward to this past week, we had a discussion about something not really important but i told him that i am so busy with everything in life that i needed a little space/free time for myself to catch a breath (i am a full time student, work part time, i live with my mom and sister so i help with house chores, i also take care of my grandpa so its quite a lot).
He understood me and tried to give me some space and then i told him i was thinking of going to the movie with one of my friends and he got upset because he thought i chose my friend over him. I explained and reminder him that that is not true and that i asked for some time for myself. I honeslty think he misunderstood me and then he got mad and said something mean. I got upset because I thought i was clear about wanting some me time. Anyway.
Next day it was almost good again, he apologized and admitted he overreachted. I forgave him and said again that especially now i would like some time for myself.
He understood and went driving on his motor with his sister, that is what he said to me. I was happy for them and they sended some pics it looked fun. The next day i saw oj his sisters page that she posted a video of them driving with that friend. of course everyone has the right to hangout with their friends, but it pissed me off because we werent really on good terms and i think he should have mentioned that he was also with his friend. 2 days later i asked him how is was with his sister and if he was with other friends aswell, he lied and said no. I reminded him of the video his sister posted and there was a 2 second frame where i saw his friend. He admitted that he was with that friend which again is not really a big problem but why would you lie about it. It just didnt feel right with me and i was already frustraded from the days before. I got angry and said that it kind of broke my trust a bit. He tried to explain why he didnt mention it but i was so frustrated and didnt listen. I again told him to give me space because a lot happend in a short time and i was just overwhelmed. His fear is that i will leave him so instead of giving me space he kept trying to reach out wich ofcourse escalated. I was just pissed AF. another side note, in the beginning of our relationship My BF was the one who said that things between our relationship should stay between us which i agreed to. That the moment other people would be involved in our problems, it would not have a positive effect. After i was so pissed of, he apparently went to his sister to tell her that we were in a fight and that he was affraid of loosing me. 1 day later he texted me and we tried to work things out, i asked him if he shared things with other people, he said no, and i asked again and then he admitted that he shared with his sister. I was so done, again another lie. this is de second in DAYS. I reminded him that it was his own idea that we would not share such personal things with people, he said that he didnt know what to do and he couldnt bare it himself. I asked him how he thought i was bearing it alone? idk what to do or to think honeslty

So me and my BF are together for about 9 months now, not super long not short.
Untill now we have a good relationship, we had some discussions like every relationship has but we were both very mature and handled it well.
He has a friend which i am not a fan of to be honest and i told him this. This friend of him is very disrespectfull with his jokes and once he made a joke about my Bf’s parents which really crossed the line for me. I have never met him but i told my bf that this is goingtoo far and that he should really consider what kind of a friend this is but anyway its his own choice right.
Fast forward to this past week, we had a discussion about something not really important but i told him that i am so busy with everything in life that i needed a little space/free time for myself to catch a breath (i am a full time student, work part time, i live with my mom and sister so i help with house chores, i also take care of my grandpa so its quite a lot).
He understood me and tried to give me some space and then i told him i was thinking of going to the movie with one of my friends and he got upset because he thought i chose my friend over him. I explained and reminder him that that is not true and that i asked for some time for myself. I honeslty think he misunderstood me and then he got mad and said something mean. I got upset because I thought i was clear about wanting some me time. Anyway.
Next day it was almost good again, he apologized and admitted he overreachted. I forgave him and said again that especially now i would like some time for myself.
He understood and went driving on his motor with his sister, that is what he said to me. I was happy for them and they sended some pics it looked fun. The next day i saw oj his sisters page that she posted a video of them driving with that friend. of course everyone has the right to hangout with their friends, but it pissed me off because we werent really on good terms and i think he should have mentioned that he was also with his friend. 2 days later i asked him how is was with his sister and if he was with other friends aswell, he lied and said no. I reminded him of the video his sister posted and there was a 2 second frame where i saw his friend. He admitted that he was with that friend which again is not really a big problem but why would you lie about it. It just didnt feel right with me and i was already frustraded from the days before. I got angry and said that it kind of broke my trust a bit. He tried to explain why he didnt mention it but i was so frustrated and didnt listen. I again told him to give me space because a lot happend in a short time and i was just overwhelmed. His fear is that i will leave him so instead of giving me space he kept trying to reach out wich ofcourse escalated. I was just pissed AF. another side note, in the beginning of our relationship My BF was the one who said that things between our relationship should stay between us which i agreed to. That the moment other people would be involved in our problems, it would not have a positive effect. After i was so pissed of, he apparently went to his sister to tell her that we were in a fight and that he was affraid of loosing me. 1 day later he texted me and we tried to work things out, i asked him if he shared things with other people, he said no, and i asked again and then he admitted that he shared with his sister. I was so done, again another lie. this is de second in DAYS. I reminded him that it was his own idea that we would not share such personal things with people, he said that he didnt know what to do and he couldnt bare it himself. I asked him how he thought i was bearing it alone? idk what to do or to think honeslty