u/OkChoice2111

TLDR: what did you do to help yourself not to fall into unhealthy numbing habits like phone/social media addiction?

I'm fairly new to EMDR and maybe three sessions into the finger wiggling stage (you can tell I'm great with the lingo.). It's hitting me way way harder than I expected. I'm now just consistently feeling blue and slightly disengaged, whereas before I was an extremely bubbly social person. I know I need to give myself more of a break from social interactions to give myself time to rest, but when I do have alone time I just stare at short form videos phone or listen to sad music and feel sad.. before I did EMDR I had my phone social media usage pretty under control and was one of the lightest users I know.

Is this a common experience? What did you do to navigate this? I'm not sure if it's something I should accept or try and navigate away from? Any help welcomed.

I'm 30F and trying to work on building a better sense of self. Thing is I'm a bit of an extrovert so my hobbies very quickly become group activities and I would like something just for me. I currently play Padel, Pickleball, go to the gym regularly plus I volunteer at a food bank. I'd like something I keep private and is a personal joy but I'm nervous I'll pick something too hard. I'm thinking fencing or something physical.