u/Ok_Blueberry_6999

THIS IS A NSFW POST YALL

I'm not quite sure how to word my questions but they are directed towards men (and women who are/have been in relationships) and sex and lust.

For context, I am a virgin and the most I have been physical with a man is a kiss. I've never touched their private areas nor have they touched mine and these kisses occurred in the context of dates in early relationships (e.g second and third dates). I have noticed a pattern now that every time I kiss a man he becomes er*ct almost within the first 3 seconds. He either tells me it's happened and pulls away or I don't realise until I can feel it (which due to my inexperience doesn't register straight away). This is happening almost immediately (not after a long time of kissing, not after touching etc). I'm also not a very sexual person, so I don't flirt sexually beforehand either (which I think mitigates arousal in the lead up). Regarding clothing, I don't like showing skin so I'm typically covered but I tend to wear figure hugging clothing - unsure if this is important.

Am I causing someone to lust in these occasions? I don't really believe that being turned on equates to lust but I'm afraid of where his mind and behaviour may wander after the kiss, and I'd feel partly responsible for that.

Is the only solution to this to never kiss?

If you're a guy and this happens, how would you like the woman to respond? What would be respectful for you? One guy told me I should be flattered it happened and I don't know how that sits with me.

As the title states, I'm straight up walking up to single-looking men (they're in groups) at church and striking up a conversation. Apps are not working for me (I ran out of guys on three dating apps) and I hate the silos men and women sit in at church. Ima just start making myself known. Getting desperate out here folks 😭

Peace and love xx

I have brown/Indian skin and get bad dark brown flat scars from acne. I don't often pick at my acne but they WILL still scar as a black spot. This has been happening since I hit puberty and never stopped. I have been using various different combinations of skin serums over the last decade which has helped with fading the hyperpigmentation at a more rapid rate but I am considering treatments now that I can afford to drop a few $$. I don't have sensitive skin and have only completed basic facials.

What kind of treatments might be best to fade scar hyperpigmentation (e.g. chemical peel? laser?) and can anyone recommend a good clinic in Melbourne (preferably East but I'm happy to travel into the CBD).

J - 38 year old homeless man with severe mental health issues. He is a significant risk to himself and to others. He is a criminal and currently on an order, and mandated to do therapy with me. Every health worker turns J away because he is aggressive, violent, and scary. But this means that he is isolated and othered from the world and doesn't receive the help he needs.

J sees me, his Psychologist, weekly and I'm the longest worker he has had. Praise God for our solid relationship.

Please pray for Jesus to meet him in his need, heal and deliver him from his severe mental health issues, and bring peace, love, joy, and purpose into his life.