Should I move in with my dad, even if that means potential no contact with my mom?
Hello! I’m F17 and recently have gotten into a predicament. Today i finally told my mother and step dad i was thinking of moving in with my biological dad.
For context, i live with my step brother, half sister, and bio sister, my mother hits me and constantly gets into arguments with me, and even gave me a concussion recently as punishment, and my step dad is constantly threatening to beat me and makes me the target when him and my mom get into arguments, though my mom does defend me. I recently got tired of it after he got mad at me in a recent argument he was having with my mom. I began to tell my dad about my problems and he suggested to move with him. The problem with that is that my dad has no car and is doing worse financially than my mom and step dad, but he is financially stable enough to take care of me and I see him on weekends.
I am currently saving to buy a car so i’d be able to take myself to work and school. Although when I told my step dad and mom about moving in with my bio dad, things didn’t go well. My step dad cried (crocodile tears) saying he’s only harder on me compared to everyone else because he knows i have a bright future, while my mother said she would never want to see me again if i left, though she could be bluffing, sometimes she will say stuff like this and then be fine in a week. I don’t care what my step dad thinks, but I’m worried my mom would cut all contact with me if I do leave, we have our ups and downs but i still love her and at the end of the day she does provide for me with healthcare, food, rides to work and even luxuries at times, she also is mentally unstable, and so am I, which explains our rocky relationship.
I am also going to college soon anyway next august, so I was thinking of waiting it out and dealing with my step dad and mom just a bit more before leaving. But I also want to take the risk and just move with my dad and not have to deal with all the unnecessary abuse (?) i receive at my moms house.
So should I stay with my step dad and mother? Or go with my father and risk no contact with my mom?