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I’m 26M, 5'6", and currently in the middle of a fitness transformation. I’ve already lost 15kg, but I’m still on the chubby side and aiming to be in peak shape in the next 7 months.

My biggest issue right now is my baby face. Whenever I clean shave, I look like a 10th-grade student going to give board exams. On top of that, I have a very pale skin tone, and my face turns completely red whenever I am out in the sunlight, which just adds to the awkwardness.

Because of the face fat and current build, I'm struggling with confidence regarding photos and meetings.

• Should I delay the AM process entirely for the next 7 months until the face fat is gone?

• If I continue right now, how do I style myself to look older and more mature?

I’m 26, working remotely from a Tier 2 city with a 1 Cr+ net income. I lead a quiet, comfortable life focused on niche hobbies like sim racing, 3D printing, and cooking.

My parents found a profile for a girl who is an absolute 10/10 with a high-glam social life. I feel she’s way out of my league and our lifestyles wouldn't click (it’s not an issue with the city, i don’t mind relocating to any metro)

How do I tell her parents (or mine) without sounding like I have low self-esteem? 😅

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I have noticed this on long drive with family, it seems like on highways the ac combines with road noise acts as a white noise generator making everyone sleepy

I (26M) recently matched with a girl (25F) on Jeevansathi. She’s been very transparent with me, which I appreciate. She shared that she was in a 5-year relationship that ended a year ago because the guy's parents were conservative and wouldn't agree to the marriage.

The issue is, she admitted that the reason she felt a bit "off" during one of our calls is because I remind her of her ex.

While she insists she is over him and has processed the breakup, I personally don't feel comfortable being a "reminder" of someone else’s past, especially a 5-year-long chapter that ended due to external circumstances rather than a lack of feelings. I feel it’s better for both of us to find people who don't carry that specific baggage into the connection.

I’ve decided that i want to say no (don’t really want to interfere with someone’s feeling), but I want to do it gently since she was honest with me. How do I communicate this without sounding like I'm judging her past?

any good cafes for remote work, and good internet?

With the current state of the tech industry like mass layoffs continuing into 2026 and the shift toward AI-driven lean team. I’m curious how this is affecting the AM process for others here.

For those of us in software engineering or tech consulting, "stability" looks very different now than it did three years ago. I’m seeing a few trends and wanted to get your take:

1• Financial Buffers: Are you guys increasing your emergency funds or being more conservative with big spends (like lavish weddings or home loans) given the market volatility?

2• The "Stability" Filter: Are girls/guys (and their families) moving away from tech profiles in favor of more "recession-proof" sectors like healthcare, government jobs, or core engineering?

3• Career Pivots: How do you explain a transition into a new niche to a prospect who might only see "job change" as a redoubtable risk?

4. The "AI Threat": Do people outside of tech actually understand the slowdown, or is there a misconception that "IT is always booming"?

Hi everyone, I recently started my Arranged Marriage (AM) journey, and I’m honestly just processing this interaction. I need to vent and see if anyone else has dealt with this level of toxicity.

We recently connected with a family from Jaipur. My mother had a phone conversation with the girl’s father, and the things he said were so incredibly weird and out of line that I’m still struggling to wrap my head around it.

For some quick background: I lost my father during the COVID-19 pandemic. I’m also currently a bit on the chubbier side, but I’ve been consistently working out and getting into shape for the last 7 months (already down 15 kgs!).

During the call, the girl’s father unleashed all of this onto my mom:

• Interrogating her about my dad’s death: He asked my mom three different times about the specific details of how my father passed away, refusing to just let it go.
• Fat-shaming and unsolicited comparisons: He openly fat-shamed me to my own mother. He then went on a tangent comparing me to his son, who lives in the USA, lecturing her about how "disciplined" the guy is.
• Bringing up Sati Pratha: At the end of the convo, he, for some reason, added this bit, and this is the part that makes my blood boil. While talking to my mother, he somehow thought it was an appropriate time to talk about Sati Pratha and casually mention how it was "a thing in the older times."

Like, what actually goes through people's minds when they come up with crap like this

Hi everyone 👋

I’m a 26M, 5’6”, currently working remotely for a US-based startup from a Tier-2 town in India. I’ve been working for 5+ years and my CTC is 1Cr+. My dad passed away during Covid, and since then I’ve been handling a lot of family responsibilities on my own.

I’m at a bit of a crossroads right now. I’m confused whether I should seriously start the arranged marriage route or try my luck more actively on dating apps like Hinge.

The issue is that dating apps don’t really work well in Tier-2 towns, so I usually have to set my location to places like Delhi to get decent matches. I do get matches there, but then the location gap becomes a practical issue. Also, I’m currently on the chubbier side, though I’m actively working on it. I’ve already lost around 15 kg and I’m hoping to be in much better shape by the end of this year.

On the arranged marriage side, I’ve tried platforms like Jeevansathi. But AM feels very transactional at times. Almost every conversation seems to start with salary, ITR, package verification, etc. I understand financial stability matters, but it feels a bit weird when that becomes the opening filter.

So I wanted to ask people here:

Should I focus on the arranged marriage route seriously now, or should I give dating apps/social dating more time?

Would also appreciate advice from people who have been through something similar.

Thanks in advance 🙏