u/Ok_Dogmom

My fiancee proposed to me in February (and I obviously said yes). She has mentioned wanting an engagement ring of her own, and I think she would love having her own proposal moment rather than me just handing her the ring.

I’m planning to “propose back” in a couple of weeks, but I’ve realized I have absolutely no idea what I’m supposed to say when I already know the answer to “Will you marry me?”

Obviously I want to tell her I love her and I can't wait to marry her, but how do I actually end the speech? Should I still ask the classic "Will you marry me?" or should I say something that acknowledges the fact that we're already engaged?

To all the fellow second proposers: What did you say when you got down on one knee?

Getting married in a little over a year and next week we have our first major planning meeting with our venue.

The venue owner is very hands-on. He has been in the industry for over 30 years and he and his team handle the decor, linens, setup, coordination, pretty much everything. We don't bring or set up anything ourselves. It is all provided and customized for our wedding. 

The idea is that we give him as much inspiration and information as possible at this meeting and then we just let him cook. We will meet with him again a month before the wedding to confirm any changes and finalize everything. 

We already plan to bring ideas for our color palette, flowers, linens, decor, and the general mood we want. But we're just now realizing that wedding planning is probably a lot more than just colors and decoration. 

What else should we be prepared to discuss? Are there any details couples often forget to think about at this stage? Are there specific questions we should ask?

I would love any advice on how to make the most of this meeting, especially since so much of the wedding will be built around what we say next week.

I (26F) get to marry my wonderful fiancee (26F) in just over a year. I’m so excited to have a beautiful wedding and celebrate our love with my family, but I’m also feeling sad because I won’t have many friends in attendance.

Growing up, I had a very large circle of friends. But I lived in a pretty Republican community in the bible belt. I met most of my friends at church and even the ones I didn't meet at my church were religious themselves.

I started dating women as a young adult, but I kept it pretty quiet until I met my now fiancee. I loved her so much that I just didn’t care anymore about hiding it anymore. After I came out, I lost pretty much every friend I had. People I’d known for over a decade. People I truly thought would be standing beside me at my wedding. They all just vanished from my life.

It was devastating. I had always been such a social butterfly, but that experience really shook me. I became so scared to go out and meet new people and it’s been years since I’ve had a real social life.

I do have one incredible friend who I met randomly a couple of years ago and I’m so grateful for her. But other than her my side of the guest list is all family.

Sitting down and creating a guest list has made this loss feel really visible in a way I wasn't prepared for. My side will be mostly family and even though I know that shouldn't matter, I'm feeling very self-conscious about it.

I know my wedding should be about marrying the person I love, and I really am so excited. I think I just needed a place to vent to people who might understand. Has anyone else dealt with this while wedding planning?