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I received an UGG throw blanket for our wedding that apparently cost like $150. I thought that was an insane amount of money to spend on a throw blanket but fast forward three years and I use the blanket every day and I even took it to bed last night and have used it for a hospital stay. It’s so warm and cozy

We also received a Crate & Barrel Salt and pepper mills and I did not expect to care about them. They have made cooking so much more enjoyable, I love the feel of grinding the pepper and that I can choose the courses. it was a huge upgrade from my cheap ones I have had for ever.

I’m 21 + 6 days and had a rescue cerclage at 20 weeks— 3.5mm cervix with dilation and exposed membranes and a lot of funneling but no cramps or honestly any symptoms at all.
Both my OB and MFM refuse to use the words “bed rest” or even “modified bed rest.” They just keep saying “activity restriction, pelvic rest, no lifting greater than 10 lb (I haven’t lifted anything more than my water bottle), no driving and no prolonged walking or standing; but they won’t give me a time limit… so what does prolonged mean?! 😢

After my first follow-up after my cerclage, I honestly thought they were going to tell me I could start doing a little more but I guess I still had funneling. So they said “Keep doing what you’re doing an try not to put pressure on your cervix.”
When I asked for more specific guidance, I said, “Can I stand for five minutes at a time?” My MFM replied, “Instead of asking for a time limit, think every time you get up think about the fact that you need to get back down.”
😂 Like… what does that even mean?! I feel like I’m trying so hard to do the right thing, but it’s difficult when the instructions are so open to interpretation.

It also doesn’t help that my husband is a doctor ( nothing to do with OB ) who’s pretty conservative in his approach and is naturally a very cautious person. He basically doesn’t want me getting up for anything other than using the bathroom because he’s terrified of something happening. Honestly, he’s been amazing, and both my parents and his parents have come to help take care of me.
On top of that, his best friend is a neonatologist whose wife also had a cerclage. She essentially put herself on modified bed rest and barely got up for about 20 weeks, and she made it to full term. Hearing stories like that makes it even harder to know what’s right.
If lying here for another 16ish weeks is truly what is best for my baby, I will absolutely do it. But I also don’t know if I’m doing more harm than good by barely moving at all. I’ve been wearing my Oura Ring and trying to keep my steps under 3,000 a day because I honestly don’t know where the right balance is.
Has anyone else struggled with getting such vague guidance? How did you interpret “activity restriction” after a cerclage?

Baby is number one priority but I also have a secret fear that God forbid something happens, everyone will think it’s because I was doing too much. So it’s noon and I’ve taken 499 steps and that’s literally just to the bathroom and to get a glass of water

I’m sitting in the hospital right now, feeling really sad while I wait for my cerclage. I’m 20 weeks and 2 days pregnant.
I feel frustrated (though logically I know it’s no one’s fault) because I had a difficult time getting pregnant. Before my first pregnancy, I told my fertility doctor that my progesterone was low, and he said, “There’s no reason for progesterone—it’s fine.” Then, around 8 weeks into that pregnancy, my progesterone dropped, so we supplemented, but the following week I miscarried. I know I can’t say the two were related.
Two months later, I got pregnant again and started progesterone supplementation. It wasn’t until my progesterone dropped again that my doctor told me to switch to vaginal progesterone. Then my OB told me to stop taking it at 13 weeks, and the NP was basically like, “I don’t even know why you were on it.”
I’ve had at least six transvaginal ultrasounds during this pregnancy, and no one ever checked my cervical length (unless that’s something that isn’t typically done until a certain point in pregnancy, my last one was at 13 weeks but I read they don’t generally check until 16 weeks)
Now I’m sitting here at 20 weeks and 2 days, waiting for a cerclage, and it’s hard not to wonder if anything could have been done differently.

The MFM said technically if we knew you had a short cervix we would have kept you on progesterone. I’m just sad and scared and want this baby and the MFM was really nice but painted a grim picture.
Are people generally on bed rest after? Or just light duty”?

Thank you! I’m just sad and trying not to be