u/Ok_Procedure1700

So hey everyone,

As we all know, there are all kinds of posts on this sub that we read, discuss, laugh at, or argue about every day. But then there are some posts that genuinely leave you frustrated, powerless, and angry. The kind of posts that make your blood boil and stay in your head long after you close the app.

I just came across another rape case post today, and what disturbed me even more was the amount of victim shaming the teen mentioned was present around it. Questions like:
“Why was she outside at night?”
“What was she doing with a guy?”
“What was she wearing?”
"Why did the guy not protect her?"

And honestly, I’m tired of it.

We are Gen Z, aren’t we? The generation that is probably the most connected, most technically literate, and most aware generation this country has seen. We are already slowly changing things that older generations considered impossible, inter-caste relationships becoming more accepted, conversations around mental health becoming normal, people openly talking about consent, toxic masculinity being questioned, women speaking up more without immediately being silenced.

So why can’t we try to create something real for women’s safety too?

And no I am not here to talk about some hashtag or subreddit where you sit late at night and scroll through posts giving sympathy, no I am talking about doing some real work.

I was thinking about building a community-driven safety network. Not a vigilante group which uses violence (not unless self defense), not moral policing of couples, and definitely not “hero syndrome.” Just normal people trying to make public spaces safer.

Some ideas:

• A subreddit/Discord/community where people can report unsafe areas, harassment hotspots, broken streetlights, suspicious activity, stalking incidents, broken cctv cameras, etc.
• Volunteers doing safe public patrols in crowded areas at night, near stations, colleges, festivals, airports, bus stops, isolated roads, simply being present, observant, and ready to contact authorities if needed.
• People posting patrol timings/routes publicly for transparency and accountability.
• Female volunteers who can show if womans cabins in local train or other train have the police present after 10pm?
• Creating “safe point” maps: late-night pharmacies, cafés, stores, police booths, places where women can seek help if stranded.
• Escort/help systems for students or women traveling alone at night.
• Verified emergency contacts by city.
• Crowd-sourced reports that help identify repeat harassment zones instead of letting incidents disappear quietly.

And before anyone misunderstands:
This is NOT about controlling women.
NOT about policing couples.
NOT about acting like superheroes.
NOT about violence.

See, everyone knows that it is the rapists fault entirely that rape happens, its his mentality and his sick desires that lead to it, but we cant do anything about it, we need to stick to most practical solution which will not restrict woman while also protecting them.

It’s about making sure fewer women feel alone or unsafe in public spaces.

Maybe this sounds idealistic, maybe difficult, maybe naive. But doing absolutely nothing while reading horrifying cases every week feels worse.

If enough technically skilled people, students, developers, moderators, designers, and volunteers come together, I genuinely think something useful can be built.

Even if it starts small.

Even if it only helps one person feel safer walking home someday.

What do you all think? Would anyone actually be interested in building something like this?

Pata hai aaj kya hua? Proper Indian family kalesh chal raha hai idhar.

So kal mera JEE Advanced ka paper tha, aur same day meri cousin ki engagement bhi thi. Regret toh bohot hua ki jaa nahi paya, but she told me it’s okay and that I can come after the exam to help with marriage preparations.
(Basically free majdoori ke liye bula rahi thi, but koi na, hum ladke hai, humari labour emotional blackmail ke saath complimentary aati hai, especially on a sisters wedding.)

But situation utni simple nahi thi because it’s an inter-caste marriage, aur ghar me pehle se hi tension chal raha tha. Mujhe pehle se feeling aa gayi thi ki kuch na kuch kaand hone wala hai. And boy was I right.

So lore first.

My parents left for the village one day before. Meanwhile I was alone at home waking up early for JEE Advanced, making my own lunch and all that survival mode stuff. Exam khatam hua around 5:30 PM, and meri train 6 baje ki thi.

Main literally exam hall se 5:40 pe apni bike pe nikla, station tak ekdam speed mai chalai, waha mere friends aa gaya thhey bike wapas le jaane (i had told them a day earlier, ki yaha se bike le jaana mere se, and thank god they werent late) I somehow boarded the train and the moment I sat down, I collapsed against the seat like a fallen soldier returning from war.

Thankfully AC first tier tha, so koi random uncle “beta thoda adjust kar lo” bolke invade nahi kar raha tha.

I slept instantly and woke up around 10 PM, 30 mins before arrival. Jab station pe utra toh mere 2 cousins already waha wait kar rahe the because engagement afternoon me hi khatam ho gayi thi aur sab ghar laut chuke the, that honestly healed me a little, ki koi toh hamare liye bhi ruka na bhai.

Those guys took me straight to a restaurant and I had a full proper dinner, late night ko options kam thhey but after the entire JEE stress. Bro woh dhaabe ka food tasted Michelin star level at that moment.

Then we headed back to our village.

Now our village house is huge. In Marathi we call it a “wada.” Big courtyard in the center with rooms surrounding it from all sides. My grandfather and his 3 brothers grew up there together, got married there, had kids, raised their kids there (our parents) basically an ancestral house.

Most of our parents moved to cities for education and job, but whenever everyone returns to the village, somehow the house still fits 30+ people. (ladai hoti hai bhai courtyard mai open sky ke neeche sone ke liye)

So we reached around midnight.

I thought everyone would be asleep because engagement functions are tiring and all.

Nope.

The first thing I saw after entering the front yard was a PAN flying across the courtyard.

An actual steel pan.

At that moment I remembered, ah yes I belong to an indian household where inter caste marriage is happening.

My cousin, the one whose engagement just happened, i call her didi, so didi was crying while her grandmother was yelling at everyone. People were trying to hold them back while some relatives were standing in the corner pretending they aren’t listening or just watching.

Grandmother was shouting stuff like:
“Hamare zamaane me aisa nahi hota tha!” and “Jaati-vyavastha koi mazaak hai kya?” aur “Kal gaon wale kya bolenge?” (i got to know full details from my younger brother later)

Meanwhile my cousin and her mom were crying and yelling back:
“Aisa kya gunaah kar diya usne?”, her mom said and she also said “Apni pasand se shaadi kar rahi hai bas!” “Kam se kam bacchi ki shaadi toh dhang se hone do!”

Her father was just sitting there facepalming. (Her grandfather already passed away years ago.)

I had already heard earlier that grandma didn’t even attend the engagement, which had already hurt my cousin a lot.

I went near her, tried calming her down, told her not to cry and all that.

Then she hugged me and started sobbing properly.

That honestly broke my heart because she studied engineering in my city for 4 years and we became really close during that time. She’s genuinely one of my favorite cousins.

And man… I was already mentally exhausted after JEE, then after finally feeling relaxed during dinner, I walk into this kalesh.

Some of us tried calming things down. My dad supported her too, along with a few others. Eventually her father snapped and shouted at grandma:
“Ho gayi na sagaai? Ab tamasha mat karo, Kam se kam meri beti ko khush rehne do.”

After that things quieted down. Grandma now even cursing her son went to sleep in her room, saying things like joru ka gulaam ban gaya hai and stuff.

My mom and aunts took my cousin and her mother to sleep.

But today I could still see she looked kinda depressed. And because it’s a village, everywhere I go I hear random aunties gossiping:
“Aajkal ke bacchon ko kuch pata hi nahi.”
“Inter-caste shaadi kabhi sahi nahi hoti.”

Like bro some of these people haven’t updated their software since 1972.

Now mehendi is on 21st, sangeet on 22nd, haldi on 24th and marriage on 25th.

I really don’t want her feeling sad during all this because despite everything, she genuinely loves the guy and deserves to enjoy her wedding.

So yeah, any suggestions on how to cheer her up during these few days?

(And don’t worry about the gossiping villagers. If I hear one more aunty giving TED Talks on caste system, I might start my own haldi ceremony in jail.)

So guys, I have been seeing the chaos of CBSE results for a few days and honestly, as someone who got marks that were expected to me, I did not say anything much yet, but now after seeing a few posts I feel compelled to say this.

Many students here can't afford rechecking of all papers due to its price which is completely understandable, however right now what we need is proof against CBSE, because just accusing won't move them, we have to show them proof. So here is my suggestion, you see for asking a graded paper's photocopy:

You have apply for your actual scanned papers. For 2026, the fee to download your evaluated answer book is ₹700 per subject. This can only be done if you complete the first step.

Now, many here could afford to do this for all 5 or 6 subjects, but many cannot, so for those students you all should take one or two subjects only, the subject where according to you its most probable that you got unfair grade, then take the photocopies to your schools and ask your teacher to re-evaluate with you, this way you can have actual proof against CBSE

Stay strong, it is an exam, yes it was important but not as important as your life, you can give the supplimentary exam or improvement exam.

So this is story of yesterday night, my brother who recently started his 10th this Feb got results of his first periodic test, wo 40 marks wali test Jo hai. He got 82% in it, now I know what you all will say, wow bhai 82 mil Gaya, Arey bhai ye toh accha hai and all that, but no, frankly in school exams 82 ain't a good score especially when everyone knows school teachers aren't so strict during checking, they give you some leeway.

So my mom and dad, when they heard about this they were like, tu toh padh hi nahi Raha tha, keh raha tha I will do good in my exams and all, talk to me after exams about study schedule, and this actually happened, like my brother didn't even study once a week at start, slowly he started studying a bit in March, but that too was too little, then In April when his exams happened, even then during exams he played outside and all that studying only for around an hour, usme bhi 4 bar Susu ke liye uthega, 10 bar paani piyega and all that.

So my mom was like, sure 82 isn't all that bad but you could have gotten a lot more if you had tried, if you had studied a little harder. My dad chill as ever was eating popcorn while watching PBKS fumble on their catches, I on the other hand enjoyed while stroking fire with kerosene 😁 (it happens between brothers yk) but now dad got caught up in the fire somehow

My mom said, mai keh rahi thi ise coaching laga do, sunni kaha hai meri, dekh liya na ab kya ho raha hai, bacha padh nahi Raha aur aap yaha match dekhe ja rahe ho, she turned off the TV, but dad didn't say anything about it for his own Good.

Then dad joined mom, they talked with my brother how he should try harder they won't say anything of he tries and still doesn't get marks, but at least try, then suddenly my dad said chodo no, 82 itna bhi kaha bura hai, my brother as if seeing a chance of escape said ha, wo tution lagaye hue bacchon ko toh 80 bhi nahi aaye, aur padhai sab thodi na hota hain, 80+ toh acche he hai na, jab deho tab padhai padhai.

My mom was silent for a minute and I was like damn is this the end? Did mom lose? But. But. But she did not disappoint me, ahe said kal tere school aati hu aur Tera admission nikal wa leti hu, tujhe sarkari school Mai bhej dege toh tu 80 la ya 35 la mai kuch nahi bolungi, agar padhai sab kuch nahi hai toh why am I paying 1 lakh in your tution and around 40k additional expenses, and I was like damn, that's a checkmate there

And this is my question to teens today too, if you are not ready to give effort in study, if you do not see your future in it why bother going to expensive private schools? Just go to govt schools.