r/VictimsSupportIndia

Hi everyone. About 10 months ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworthy, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family.

To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

So hey everyone,

As we all know, there are all kinds of posts on this sub that we read, discuss, laugh at, or argue about every day. But then there are some posts that genuinely leave you frustrated, powerless, and angry. The kind of posts that make your blood boil and stay in your head long after you close the app.

I just came across another rape case post today, and what disturbed me even more was the amount of victim shaming the teen mentioned was present around it. Questions like:
“Why was she outside at night?”
“What was she doing with a guy?”
“What was she wearing?”
"Why did the guy not protect her?"

And honestly, I’m tired of it.

We are Gen Z, aren’t we? The generation that is probably the most connected, most technically literate, and most aware generation this country has seen. We are already slowly changing things that older generations considered impossible, inter-caste relationships becoming more accepted, conversations around mental health becoming normal, people openly talking about consent, toxic masculinity being questioned, women speaking up more without immediately being silenced.

So why can’t we try to create something real for women’s safety too?

And no I am not here to talk about some hashtag or subreddit where you sit late at night and scroll through posts giving sympathy, no I am talking about doing some real work.

I was thinking about building a community-driven safety network. Not a vigilante group which uses violence (not unless self defense), not moral policing of couples, and definitely not “hero syndrome.” Just normal people trying to make public spaces safer.

Some ideas:

• A subreddit/Discord/community where people can report unsafe areas, harassment hotspots, broken streetlights, suspicious activity, stalking incidents, broken cctv cameras, etc.
• Volunteers doing safe public patrols in crowded areas at night, near stations, colleges, festivals, airports, bus stops, isolated roads, simply being present, observant, and ready to contact authorities if needed.
• People posting patrol timings/routes publicly for transparency and accountability.
• Female volunteers who can show if womans cabins in local train or other train have the police present after 10pm?
• Creating “safe point” maps: late-night pharmacies, cafés, stores, police booths, places where women can seek help if stranded.
• Escort/help systems for students or women traveling alone at night.
• Verified emergency contacts by city.
• Crowd-sourced reports that help identify repeat harassment zones instead of letting incidents disappear quietly.

And before anyone misunderstands:
This is NOT about controlling women.
NOT about policing couples.
NOT about acting like superheroes.
NOT about violence.

See, everyone knows that it is the rapists fault entirely that rape happens, its his mentality and his sick desires that lead to it, but we cant do anything about it, we need to stick to most practical solution which will not restrict woman while also protecting them.

It’s about making sure fewer women feel alone or unsafe in public spaces.

Maybe this sounds idealistic, maybe difficult, maybe naive. But doing absolutely nothing while reading horrifying cases every week feels worse.

If enough technically skilled people, students, developers, moderators, designers, and volunteers come together, I genuinely think something useful can be built.

Even if it starts small.

Even if it only helps one person feel safer walking home someday.

What do you all think? Would anyone actually be interested in building something like this?

When I was 16 I got assaulted by my brother's best friend at that time and he was 22. It's a memory I wanted to forget. I didn't tell anyone because he's from a reputed family as his parents and my parents were close, and my brother and him were very close as well. It definitely messed me up and I developed a lot of trust issues. I haven't really seen him or his family much after that because they moved.

Back to the present l, I am 21 now and my assaulter is getting married to a woman. I honestly feel terrible for not speaking up because the woman seems very sweet and her husband is a monster. But, we were invited to his wedding and since our families are close, my parents are making me go. I don't have an excuse because my semester just ended so I'm free for now. My mom is making me go because I haven't seen them in a while. I don't know what to do. I tried really hard to forget that incident and move on. I'm not sure how I'll react while facing my assaulter again.

I'm 22(F) now , when I was 14-F yr old I was in a relationship with a 21-M yr old guy who was in college. The relationship continued for 5 years. He was preparing for IIM while doing his job, just before getting into one of the top three IIM after three attempts, he left me , technically made me leave him by constantly insulting me, breaking my confidence and talking about losing his chance with better girls in life because of me. I broke up because of the disrespect. Two months later, he moved on to a new girl, she was the HR of his company. They got physical within a month of relationship (which I didn't in 5 years cause obviously I was a teenager) and started a live in relationship. After 6 months of their relationship he came back to me saying he misses me and all, we stayed in touch , got romantic and even was about to be back again when I got to know about his new girlfriend from him only (the audacity), sometimes I regret not telling this to his gf but maybe she deserves it cause she was also not hesitant to get in relationship within a month or two with a guy who just broke up from a 5 year relationship or may be they cheated when he was with me who knows, he started behaving weird just about the time she joined his office.

Three years later in 2026, he is earning in lakhs, living the life, with his HR gf of three years while I am here who achieved nothing in life and wasted 5 years of my prime years in relationship. tl;dr I would advice young people to not waste your time in relationship, real world is cruel so it is better to have self respect, self love and work on yourself.

My husband used to rape me, so my parents brought me home and now they are hitting me, kicking me torturing me. Please help me. They have confiscated my money and cards and are hitting me non-stop, I am bleeding. I tried to call the police, they took the phone and started calling me mad. My hand is full of bruises.

This post is going to be a little long however, I wish to have some suggestions and legal advice as a close friend of mine is going through a lot of mental abuse and manipulation in the hands of his mother.

They belong from Pune currently staying at Dahisar, Mumbai and his parents divorced when he was a 5 year old, as per his words his mother had been the best and took all efforts to bring him up at times even working at far off places. However, since 2012 her nature has changed by 180 degrees and she has been monitoring and controlling every movement of his including who he is friends with and who he hangs out with. My friend has no one called family so friends are his only way out to have people to rely on. But his mother creates such scenarios and insults them to the point that they become bound to leave him. She has openly said that she will forever control his life and never let anyone else come near him as she is his mother and he should always pay attention to her and her only!

Not only that, she is never perpetually satisfied with all he does for her including being a responsible son, taking loans to take her on trips every year, buying anything she wants (including a flat in Pune when he had very less income and investing such a huge money was sort of a disastrous decision). She always has this mentality that everyone around including her son is trying to harm her (possibly an effect of watching too many crime series). Off late she has started accusing him of monetarily draining him (kindly note she doesn’t contribute anything to the monthly expenses and even takes away the rent that comes from her own flat and her son’s flat).

Another point she fights about with him is that he doesn’t wish to get married as he identifies as asexual and doesn’t wish to spoil a girl’s life and his own life as well. She has gone to the extent of calling him a hijra, and suggested him to try prostitution along with his friends to earn extra money when he asked her to contribute financially as he was running on a tight budget. She plays victim by saying that she has raised him all alone, paid for his education and that now she is also a senior citizen. She even threatens to do something to herself and write a note falsely accusing him of harming her as according to her Indian laws will never listen to the son’s side since she is a woman and that too a senior citizen.

Oh btw that lady has multiple FIRs in her name from her neighbours, her own mother and the place where she worked previously. She also says racist things about certain communities like Bengalis and Buddhists (Jai Bheem) people as according to her some psychiatrist (she isn’t ready to tell us the name of the psychiatrist) has asked her to never trust the Bengalis, Muslims, Christians and and people from the Jai Bheem faith. My friend has all her messages where she has written all sorts of hurtful abuses and curses and calls recorded but he is unable to take a step further as he looks forward to having some legal suggestions to be able to take a next step. He tried being a good son but her recent actions have gone beyond tolerance and he is afraid that she might try to harm him.

Requesting suggestions or advice on this as I am scared for my friend’s safety and mental well being. The torture has gone to such extent that he is losing focus from his job and unable to think straight.

How has your week been! Please share!