u/Ok_Television_2305

I noticed that I’m rarely shy talking with the opposite gender whether they’re a classmate or teacher as long as the conversation is platonic. The minute I sense it’s not, however, the world closes in on me, I can’t breathe and I actually feel physically nauseous. So on one hand, I’m the girl who’s too caught up in the content of the conversation to notice the gender to the point where I’ve had people in religious spaces assume I’m “relaxed” of “liberal” but I also feel overwhelmed and shut down at any hint that is not platonic. And I’ve never been in a relationship or talked with anyone about marriage. Does any other girl experience this? Can men tell the difference between an “easy” girl vs someone who is just talkative?

How connected have you found people to be particularly in the 25-29 range? I feel like I’m disconnected from the community despite being born and raised here. I remember certain people from childhood but that’s it. No one knows me and I know no one beyond my immediate family. Am I alone in this?

TIL people have hair places I didn’t know hair existed and I’m shocked. Most Somalis I know have very little Xaad or body hair in the typical areas think underarms legs etc and i assume other regions match. Anyways, is this a Somali thing or family specific? And is it true that body hair is a flex in Somalia given its rarity? Is it region specific?

There’s this guy Ive been thinking about for a few months. I requested to follow him on insta and no luck so I’m assuming he’a inactive on there. I’m considering reaching out to him about his work (same field as me) because there’s genuine curiosity there but I’m hesitant because there’s also some romantic interest. I’ve never been in a talking stage and I don’t feel comfortable messaging a non Mahram privately. If there was no romantic interest, I would message him without guilt but given that there’s some physical attraction and genuine interest in him, I don’t trust my intentions. I made dua that Allah causes our paths to cross again but I don’t see that happening anytime soon. Should I let him go?