Labor/baby class vs. funeral
Hello, FTM.. I had a very close friend for about 4-5 years, but we kind of fell apart; there was a very sad event that occurred in their family, and I didn’t message or call every day, and she got upset with me and we drifted. My reasoning was because I honestly did not know how often was appropriate to keep messaging and checking in. Maybe I made the wrong decision, and we’ve never recovered from it, from about 6 years ago. She apologized to me, but it’s never been the same.
Their parent suddenly passed away, and the funeral is on the same day/timeframe as an all day class for labor, delivery, post partum, care, pediatrician, sleep, etc. that we had to get special admittance for. The next class, which only covers some, is the same day as our baby shower, that I did not encourage, but his mom wants to throw because it’s our first. They do have visitation the day before the funeral, so I’m not sure if attending that would at least show I’m trying. Due date is in 1 month.
I am honestly lost in this situation. I feel horrible, and maybe I’m just a horrible person. I don’t know what to do. This is my first pregnancy and baby, and I’m one of those who does better with information/ease of anxiety, but I feel horrible for not being there for my friend when it’s so sad of a situation.
Any advice would be helpful.