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This is my first time coming on any sort of support group but I think I genuinely need it because no one in my life so far has been understanding or helpful and I think it is out of ignorance and the fact that they will never understand what it’s like to have a chronic illness and be chronic pain. I don’t know if this is the right place to share this, but it’s been hardest with my family. I do have resentment with my family members, especially because of trauma and things that have happened in my life because of their choices. This situation as a whole has been so scary and debilitating, especially when I had a really bad flareup last year and I just feel like they have not been supportive or caring at all, and I don’t know what to do with that. For reference, I am 22 last August I was hospitalized for three days because I had a shit load of symptoms and they didn’t know what was causing them. I feel like instead of being cared for and supported they thought I was being dramatic. I had to take a medical leave from school due to my health issues and health trauma and through that time I had realized a lot of it was connected to my child for trauma. Idk I’m just so lost and confused and sometimes I feel like being around my family is what’s making me sicker because of my resentment towards them. I have tried to give them any excuses during this time like maybe they just don’t understand or maybe they’re doing the best they can but I really don’t feel that way and I haven’t had this conversation with them because I know it’ll just be flipped around on me.

I’m making this post to help me with my anxiety about starting IV ketamine. To make this simple and short l I have chronic migraine disease and dysautonomia and they have severely worsened over the past year to a point where I had to take medical leave from nursing school. It has caused a lot of PTSD and worsened my anxiety and depression so a lot of things at once that ketamine is supposed to also be beneficial for which is why I wanted to take this route. I have tried other things and different types of therapies and they have not been helpful so this was my last resort. I am, however very anxious and scared to start this drug because I know it’s very intense I don’t know whether to go with the chronic pain route or the psychotherapy route of ketamine but the psychotherapy route seems less intense and scary. I know ketamine has completely transformed peoples lives, and I hope that it will do that for me. Due to my health PTSD, I am just really scared to undergo this treatment so I am just looking for some guidance. I would also like to mention, I have severe emetophobia(fear of throwing up) and as we know, ketamine causes nausea. Thank you for listening!

I made a post a couple weeks ago about my nanny fam paying me late twice. I thought we were done with that however, today’s Juneteenth so I was off and they still have not paid me for this week. After they were paying me late the first two times I told them I wanted it stated in the contract that I have to be paid every Friday by 4 PM and I brought it up in person once and asked if the husband signed it cause I know the Mom and I did and she said she’ll bring it up to him. The second time I asked about it because I wanted a copy she again said something about getting it and then never did. I want to send them a text. Let me know if this sounds okay and what you think of the situation in general. I just think it’s so rude to constantly forget to pay me if you’re going to be forgetful put a reminder.

“Hello, just a reminder I did not get paid today yet. I should be getting paid every Friday by 4 PM. I asked about the contract twice last week and did not receive it so if we can please go over it Monday and written when I am paid that would be great.”

Question for Nannie’s that care for six month old and around that age , are the parents constantly in your way or do they just work out of home? The Mom works at home and I’ve worked for wfh parents but she’s constantly in the way or involved which at some point becomes a lot because I need to bond with the baby separately and I can tell it confuses her with the back and forth of her mom and I. If she sees the baby cry even a little bit she comes right away and doesn’t let me handle it idk what to do or if that’s normal bc the baby is young. My previous job was with a a 1 year old and I never had that issue because the mom worked out of home and dad wfh but I let him know to stay out of the way. I think the confusion for me is I don’t know if this is normal because she’s six months. I guess my question is will the babies bonding and comfort with me be affected because of this?

I posted last week about my nanny family forgetting to pay me. I messaged them about it. They did not respond, but they did pay me. They’re supposed to pay me today for this week’s pay and have yet to do that. I will be sending them a message tomorrow about it because forgetting my payment twice in a row is so unprofessional. I do want to bring up to them. It needs to be stated in our contract. Our contract says I’m paid weekly. It doesn’t say specifically say what day. I’m not sure how to bring that up politely to them, I was going to mention the fact that they have yet to pay me for the week and that late payment needs to be discussed in the contract and that we can go over it Monday.

I started with a family two weeks ago and on the contract it says that for termination or If I were to quit, it would be a four week notice is this normal? I’ve only ever done two week notices and to be honest I don’t think I’m comfortable with a whole month Notice if I were to need to quit.

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This is just an update from my last post about how I brought up overtime with my nanny parents. She did bring it up a couple days ago and said that they will pay overtime after 45 hours. She said she would most likely never go over 40 to 45 hours I told her overtime starts after 40 hours and that is the law not after 45. I don’t know why she was trying to beat around paying overtime, you don’t really get to dictate what’s the law she tried beating around paying it by saying she’d only need 40 to 45 hours but I let her know anything over 40 is overtime not 45. They said they would fix it so it’s mentioned in the contract, but she has not brought it up since.

Quick question for nannies that have worked over 40 hours. Do you get paid overtime or your regular hourly pay? I recently got offered a job that will be 40 to 45 hours a week. It occurred to me that obviously over 40 hours is overtime so I brought it up to the family and asked if I would be paid overtime. They’re really nice about it and she said she forgot it would be overtime and said that she would talk about it with her husband. We did make a contract and I want that stated in the contract which is why I brought it up.

Edit-just want to add for my previous roles I was paid overtime, it is a law legally you do have to pay overtime which is time and a half for any hour over 40 hours a week.