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I’ve been seeing someone for a short time. I asked them how they feel about monogamy/non-monogamy on the second date. They said they’re quite monogamous, but didn’t seem closed to other ideas. I said that I think I see myself having one primary life partner, but that I’d be interested in an open relationship / having other play partners. In terms of what I ideally want for myself in the future, I’m not set on monogamy or non-monogamy. But right now, I don’t feel ready to commit to a monogamous relationship. I told them I don’t want to rush commitment. Yesterday, I told them about someone I met once (before I met them), who has asked me to meet her again, and who I want to see again, because it came up in conversation, and because even though we haven’t agreed to be exclusive yet, I want to be transparent right from the start. I said I’d give them time to think, but I get the feeling they’re not comfortable with the idea. Any tips or ideas for how I should proceed? I was thinking of talking it through with them, breaking down what they are & aren’t comfortable with and why, what their fears & expectations are. Thoughts?

I have multiple intimate, loving relationships at once. I have multiple friends who I love immensely. To me, having multiple play partners isn’t much different from that.

But I think I can only see myself being IN love with one person at a time. Falling in love is such an all-encompassing feeling, I struggle to imagine how someone could feel that for more than one person. For me, being in love means wanting to give my whole self to only that person. That is a different thing altogether from loving someone.

I’ve heard polyamory described as loving more than one person. But I wonder if people feel they are IN love with more than one person? I’m just curious about how poly people experience this. I’m also curious about whether how I feel would be considered more aligned with polyamory or monogamy?

I have multiple intimate, loving relationships at once. I have multiple friends who I love immensely. To me, having multiple play partners isn’t much different from that.

But I think I can only see myself being IN love with one person at a time. Falling in love is such an all-encompassing feeling, I struggle to imagine how someone could feel that for more than one person. For me, being in love means wanting to give my whole self to only that person. That is a different thing altogether from loving someone.

I’ve heard polyamory described as loving more than one person. But I wonder if people feel they are IN love with more than one person? I’m just curious about how poly people experience this. I’m also curious about whether how I feel would be considered more aligned with polyamory or monogamy?