u/Old_Soc

I know ED and performance anxiety are brought up a lot in this sub, but I'm in a bad place mentally right now. Tried to have sex the past couple days and I'm just not getting hard, maybe 50% 60 tops. I wake up during the night rock fucking hard and think to myself " fuck yeah! You DO actually work". But when the time comes to have sex.. It's useless. I'm finding it very difficult to stay positive, and not be ashamed, or embarrassed at the situation. My partner is amazing and she's been really great when this sort of stuff happens, but it's very difficult for me to explain to her that it's all in my head.

TLDR. Ive been having issues getting rock solid, how do people snap out of feeling like a failure, or being ashamed.

What makes romance novels so popular, and can they be in the same category as adult films if you get very aroused reading/listening to them?