u/Old_Temperature_5667

Everybody thinks about palantir from a "forward arrow of time" standpoint (ie, a crime is committed on surveillance camera, and so the police start looking for them to show up again), but I was watching a doc about Palantir's AI facial recognition system today, and how it can compensate for aging.

After I watched that, I'm very much of the opinion now that all of those old "have you seen this person" Crimestoppers-type photos and sketches and photos should be within their ability to solve, at least probably going back to 2000 or so.

I haven't looked into it yet, but I'm planning to do that with the rest of my weekend. If we see a spike of those cases "solved," like we started seeing cases "solved" after ancestral DNA databases were widely accepted by the public, I'd wager they have a profitable little side business going on by plugging in current identification of random people, and asking if they've ever been sought in a crime...

It needs a little polish, but I think i'm making myself clear enough.

I've got a 605 in .357. After putting only a couple of boxes of .38s through it, my yoke screw/spring popped out without me realizing it until I unloaded, at which point of course my cylinder had to fall out and cast the stop spring and plunger into the grass somewhere.

Should be easy fixes, but I'm not finding any parts online except gunbroker and ebay at exorbitant prices for crappy looking used ones - like $40 for what goes for new at a tenth of that. ShopTaurus, Numrich, Midway, Brownells, and a handful of smaller vendors all have all of these parts "out of stock," with no end in sight. I contacted Taurus and got into an argument with a lady at customer service- "If we don't have them in stock on the website then we can't send them out, because we have to prioritize availability for repair. You can send us the firearm and we can have our gunsmiths replace them."

It's quite frustrating. Those parts aren't upgrades or anything like that, they're only common and necessary replacement parts and so if somebody orders them, then by definition they need them for repair. So it doesn't sit well that they're making them available for repair by their smiths but not by the end user. Anyway, that's a rant, but I don't feel like spending even MORE for shipping and return than the markup on the used sites.

I would be fine swapping a S&W J frame yoke screw/spring assembly in, but I don't know of any similar equivalents to the stop spring/plunger, since the engineering is different with Taurus.

Does anyone have any recommendations for a part supplier for these, or am I just going to have to bite the bullet and pay out the nose for the used parts? Alternatively, are there other options for the cylinder stop spring/plunger that I'm overlooking?

Maybe if I keep hounding Taurus they'd change their mind, but the convo with customer support makes me not optimistic.

Like the title says... I want to go on blind dates in the SGF area.

I want to meet and get to know somebody in person from the get-go. I (cishet43M) don't want to spend a month or two "talking" online. I want to do it face to face from the beginning. I don't even want to see their pictures.

Maybe filter out obvious deal breakers (politics, criminal history or substance use etc) but even then... I'd rather meet in person and eat the cost of a meal if there wasn't a spark, just to be able to do something "for real."

Something where the only messages exchanged would be "I'll meet you at the restaurant at 7pm."
Are there any groups in SGF like that?

My last three serious/long term (multi-year) relationships were started through "serious" matchmaking apps (match, eharmony, elitesingles), and ended in disaster, so... I'm done with those, and frankly I also just want to minimize tech as much as possible. (And yes, I do hit up socialization spots when I can, but as I'm a busy professional, I don't have a lot of time to hang out randomly, and I have few mutual friends by which to set me up).

Any recommendations would be appreciated.

8 or 9 months ago, I entered a new relationship with a wonderful young woman whom I had known in the past. My last relationship blew up due to the infidelity of my partner, and I wasn't really seeking a new relationship, but she reached out to me, we started "talking" and reconnecting, and one thing led to another...

Things are generally very good, but one point of friction that we can't seem to get over is her feeling about my "best friend," who is female.

Importantly, when I say "friend," we actually don't really do anything together anymore. For the last couple of years, it's mainly been phone calls or texts whenever one of us needed support, or just to talk about our day. We haven't even seen each other in person for those couple of years. I have Asperger's, and although I do have both romantic and friendly needs and attraction to other people, I don't really have much of a social battery to expend on others, and so I don't have anybody else friend-wise that I talk to besides her, and when I'm in a relationship, I prioritize my partner, and I don't have a lot left over to give to anybody else including my friend. So this limited interaction isn't an abnormal situation for me/ my friend; others might view it as abnormal, but it works for our needs. Anyway...

My problem is that my friend has a publicly known history of infidelity herself. That was perhaps a decade or more ago, and she has gone through therapy, worked on herself, and is currently married and has a happy family life, (even as it applies to the private stuff that she tells me in ​our conversations).

My significant other, though, used to work with my friend, and knows of her history. When we started dating, she became aware that I was friends with her, and then got REALLY mad that I did not preemptively disclose it. She and I have since talked about with that means a lot, and we are still working through that, because I don't know that it is appropriate to expect me to disclose all of my connections, but it is what it is, and being the betrayed partner of a relationship ending in infidelity myself, I understand her concerns about that specific person. She was very concerned about the history of infidelity, and I want her to trust me because I absolutely abhor infidelity, not just because of what happened to me, but just as a basic decency that one should expect in a monogamous relationship (And more importantly, I have absolutely NO attraction to her, not just because it would be wrong, but also because my partner gives me everything that I need, and I don't even feel a reason to have to look elsewhere). But the disagreement these days doesn't even come from that risk, so much as that she perseverates on the fact that I did not disclose the friendship. She feels that it was a lie by omission, and that it set a precedent for potential mistrust.

I am very very paranoid in terms of making sure that I don't spend unsupervised time with other women, or communicate with them about anything that could be construed as flirting, or other line crossing behaviors. Even if I'm not ever going to act on anything like that, I think that avoiding even the APPEARANCE of infropriety is important (both from a reputational protection standpoint, but more importantly so as not to foster any concerns on the part of my partner), and so generally I follow the "Billy Graham Rule."

So to that end, I've actually reflected on this a lot, and I would sever the association with my friend if need be, as even though she's really the only friendly contact that I have, it's very infrequent and superficial, and I could frankly do without it, and I think that she could too (because we've talked about it, and she understands at least the superficial-level concerns and is willing to cut back on contact, give her consent for phone and message monitoring, or whatever else would make my partner happy).

But my partner's position is that friendships of any degree should be sacred, and should not be sacrificed. And so while she does not want me talking to my friend, she also does not want me to NOT talk to her because she feels like that would be casting aside the friendship.

This is a recurrent and pervasive point of friction in our relationship, as again she views it as something fundamental in terms of potential mistrust. So, while I absolutely understand that this is something that SHE needs to work on (as does she, and acknowledges that it puts herself in conflict between two values important to her), I also don't really know how to respond myself, nor to communicate the boundaries of what I'm willing to do and not willing to do, while also respecting everybody involved.

My therapist also appropriately says that it is something she'll have to resolve herself, but that doesn't change the fact that I would like to be supportive of her and to accommodate anything that she could need, within reason. To make things more challenging, she has (acknowledged) dismissive-avoidant tendencies. It really is great that she acknowledges this, and we are open with each other about what our intentions and concerns are and I've actually been very blessed to be able to communicate with her well (to the point that everything else is really going well), and we are in a good place from my standpoint coming from​ an anxious but almost-secure position... This is just a pesky thing we can't quite seem to meet each other on.

If anybody has found themselves in a similar position where their significant other dislikes a friend, but won't bring themselves to suggest severing the friendship, I would be very much appreciative of any suggestions, to hear of your experiences and solutions, etc. Because right now I feel like I have an impossible choice to make, and I just need some help.