u/OliveOk3982

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Aleykumu salam everyone, So I am in highschool, and there is a boy I am good with and share many interests. We only talked in class and would often laugh and i find his presence enjoyable, i think he enjoys it too. Looking at him he is fairly religious, he prays, is very knowledgeable about our religion, he recites Azzan in his local Mosque and last ramadan we prayed in school a lot in iftar time and he would lead our prayers. I kinda like him and think marriage would be possible one day. Only thing is that he smokes, often too with his friends. In school, outside of school. Vapes,cigarettes and so on. I hate smoking. Not only because i view it as haram but because i can't take it. My lungs are fairly sensitive due to issues when i was younger. He also listens to music, while i try to avoid it. I can't lie i loved to sing and still do, but i do think it's haram and i have been avoiding it alot. He loves music, a lot, even dances for our national country dance club. So...i am not sure if i am allowed to like him or if marriage with a guy like this is allowed. He is a muslim, and his knowledgeable can impress me sometimes. Smart academically too, has many skills and hobbies, we share tons of the same interest that i no one else does, inside jokes and so on. But these two things are making me question it. I am thinking maybe he can change. I asked him once if he would ever quit smoking and he said only if he find a girl and they really like eachother and she asks him to for her. I am maybe not that girl. But he is willing to change it. So I am not sure. Do you think even if we get closer later on and maybe do agree on marriage. Would i be allowed to pursue marriage with a man who does two things i consider haram?

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Aleykumu salam everyone, So I am in highschool, and there is a boy I am good with and share many interests. We only talked in class and would often laugh and i find his presence enjoyable, i think he enjoys it too. Looking at him he is fairly religious, he prays, is very knowledgeable about our religion, he recites Azzan in his local Mosque and last ramadan we prayed in school a lot in iftar time and he would lead our prayers. I kinda like him and think marriage would be possible one day. Only thing is that he smokes, often too with his friends. In school, outside of school. Vapes,cigarettes and so on. I hate smoking. Not only because i view it as haram but because i can't take it. My lungs are fairly sensitive due to issues when i was younger. He also listens to music, while i try to avoid it. I can't lie i loved to sing and still do, but i do think it's haram and i have been avoiding it alot. He loves music, a lot, even dances for our national country dance club. So...i am not sure if i am allowed to like him or if marriage with a guy like this is allowed. He is a muslim, and his knowledgeable can impress me sometimes. Smart academically too, has many skills and hobbies, we share tons of the same interest that i no one else does, inside jokes and so on. But these two things are making me question it. I am thinking maybe he can change. I asked him once if he would ever quit smoking and he said only if he find a girl and they really like eachother and she asks him to for her. I am maybe not that girl. But he is willing to change it. So I am not sure. Do you think even if we get closer later on and maybe do agree on marriage. Would i be allowed to pursue marriage with a man who does two things i consider haram?

Aleykumu salam everyone, So I am in highschool, and there is a boy I am good with and share many interests. We only talked in class and would often laugh and i find his presence enjoyable, i think he enjoys it too. Looking at him he is fairly religious, he prays, is very knowledgeable about our religion, he recites Azzan in his local Mosque and last ramadan we prayed in school a lot in iftar time and he would lead our prayers. I kinda like him and think marriage would be possible one day. Only thing is that he smokes, often too with his friends. In school, outside of school. Vapes,cigarettes and so on. I hate smoking. Not only because i view it as haram but because i can't take it. My lungs are fairly sensitive due to issues when i was younger. He also listens to music, while i try to avoid it. I can't lie i loved to sing and still do, but i do think it's haram and i have been avoiding it alot. He loves music, a lot, even dances for our national country dance club. So...i am not sure if i am allowed to like him or if marriage with a guy like this is allowed. He is a muslim, and his knowledgeable can impress me sometimes. Smart academically too, has many skills and hobbies, we share tons of the same interest that i no one else does, inside jokes and so on. But these two things are making me question it. I am thinking maybe he can change. I asked him once if he would ever quit smoking and he said only if he find a girl and they really like eachother and she asks him to for her. I am maybe not that girl. But he is willing to change it. So I am not sure. Do you think even if we get closer later on and maybe do agree on marriage. Would i be allowed to pursue marriage with a man who does two things i consider haram?