u/One-Try2475

Does anyone else have people in their life that they love dearly, but exhibit cognitive dissonance??? I feel so uncomfortable when they talk about their morals/values and then do actions that are in direct conflict of them. Sometimes I don’t know if I’m being baited into calling them out or if they genuinely don’t know the discrepancy between their words and actions. I’m also not sure if it’s my place to guide them through that… We are all adults and I don’t want people to be inauthentic to who they are, I just have a lot more respect when people stand in their truth. All I know is that it makes me question the people around me and I don’t love that…

My friend, who I love dearly, is a liar. To be fair, I’ve always known she was a liar, but aren’t we all. However, lately, I’ve noticed that she will (unprovoked) go on tangents about other people’s situations and how her morals/values wouldn’t allow her to be in said situations or make the same decisions. However, her actions are in direct opposition of her proclaimed morals/values. The blatant cognitive dissonance makes me so uncomfortable. I don’t know if she is lying to me or herself at this point. It is so blatant I sometimes feel like she does it on purpose just to see if I will call her out. I genuinely don’t know if I should have a conversation with her about it. To be honest, we are adults and I don’t want to have to be anyone’s guide. I’d just appreciate if she’d stand in her truth and/or stop proclaiming to be someone she isn’t.