u/OneTastyPotatoChip

I (24 M) broke up with her (23 F) in January after being together for almost a year. I broke up with her because since Summer of last year, our relationship felt like it was slowly going downhill due to her constantly dealing with mental health, general health, family losses, alcohol addiction and BPD - depressive leading to constant avoidant behaviors and going no contact for days on end and an overall decline in reciprocation and effort.

I did my best to be there for her and be understanding of her situation and it did peak somewhat again in October-November, but then it went back to feeling it was coming to feeling distant and one-sided so I ultimately made the decision in January.

She just graduated college this weekend and I decided to send her a text the next morning after a long night out simply congratulating her and how I felt proud of her, because despite the fact that we had moments where things got ugly and the relationship slowly took a huge toll on my mental health, a part of me was still proud of her for achieving her goals despite all the hardships shes endured.