u/OnigiriMarS

Hi, I’m a 28-year-old woman. I’ve been in a relationship for about 2 years with a wonderful man who is a bit older than me and also more traditional in some ways than a lot of modern men my age. Being with him has made me realize that I’m actually very drawn to the tradwife lifestyle, or at least to the softer, more domestic side of it: organizing the home, taking care of our cats (no children yet), cooking nice meals for him, creating a cozy and peaceful environment, and generally doing things that make our life together happier and calmer. Especially because he puts a huge amount of effort every day into making me feel loved, cared for, and safe.

However, I was raised by a single mother and with the mindset that I needed to study, work hard, and always be able to support myself without depending financially on a man. So even though part of me fantasizes about leaving my current job in order to focus more on the home, another part of me feels very anxious about the idea of being 100% financially dependent on someone else.

My partner always tells me he would support whatever decision makes me happiest, whether I continue working or eventually decide to stop, because financially he could comfortably support us and our future family. But even so, I can’t help thinking about things like: what if one day the relationship ended, or he became ill, or even passed away? Not because I distrust him, but simply because life can change unexpectedly.

So I wanted to ask women who live a more traditional lifestyle or are stay-at-home wives: how do you deal with that fear or uncertainty? Was it difficult for you to become financially dependent on your partner? Or did you find some kind of balance between homemaking and maintaining your own independence?

I’m not trying to start a debate about feminism or whether this lifestyle is right or wrong. I’m genuinely just interested in hearing personal experiences and how other women emotionally and practically navigate these kinds of decisions.

Thanks for reading and commenting! 🥰

Hi again! I’m the same person who made the “Tips if you are coming to León” post a while ago.

One of the biggest concerns people seem to have about this eclipse is how low the Sun will be during totality, so I wanted to share something that may reassure you a bit.

On April 30th, at 19:30h, my partner and I went out to several viewing areas around León because the Sun was at almost the exact same position and height it will have during the eclipse on August 12.

Honestly, the Sun is higher than we expected.

As long as you are somewhere open with a clear west/northwest view, visibility is actually very good. The eclipse does NOT disappear into the horizon during totality.

The important part is simply avoiding local obstacles:

trees

buildings

hills/mountains directly in front of you

But from open countryside, fields, viewpoints or wide open areas, the view should be perfectly fine during the entire eclipse.

So if you were worried that the Sun would be “touching the horizon” the whole time — it really isn’t :)

Hi, so I’ve always used Google Maps, but recently a friend suggested I try Waze, as it seems to be more up to date in real time with alerts about mobile speed cameras and police in general. However, I’ve noticed a few things that are making the experience a bit of a hassle.

1. When I approach some fixed speed cameras, I get a notification on the screen but no voice alert. This only happens with speed cameras, as it does give me voice alerts for other warnings. I’ve checked the settings and everything is enabled.

2. Some police alerts (mobile speed cameras) have come through just a few seconds before I’ve come across the police car. On my last long journey, Waze warned me about the police; I started braking and just passed them on my right, as they were on the hard shoulder behind some bushes. They caught me and I got a fine. I don’t know, there was very little warning; I wasn’t even going fast enough to need several minutes to slow down to normal speed, but it was so sudden.

3. I’ve disabled the icons showing other Wazers because I find them very distracting, but even so, I still get loads of alert icons like: ‘car on the side of the road’, which, when I get there, isn’t there, but you might easily see three icons in a row on that stretch. It’s confusing because I’m keeping a close eye out and there’s nothing there. It’s happened to me several times now.

Do these things happen to you? Is there a way to fix them? Because if not, I feel that Google Maps is much more reliable; it alerts me by voice to all speed cameras and alerts well in advance, which is what matters.

EDIT: I’m honestly a bit surprised by how some people interpreted me discussing a few issues/questions about Waze (and comparing my experience with Google Maps) as either a personal attack on Waze or me wanting to “speed without getting tickets.”

I’ve only recently started driving and using navigation apps regularly, so I was genuinely trying to understand how Waze works and whether what I experienced was normal.

Thankfully, a lot of people here were actually kind and took the time to explain things without immediately judging or assuming the worst, so thank you for that 🥰