u/Onzzway89

My wife had her second solo experience the other night.

This was better than after the first time for her. The same person she was with the first experience. I have met him also since after the first experience for her. Just get together and talk, nothing sexual or serious just get to know him. See his vibe and attitude. Doing this honestly makes me better in a odd way. I get to be more involved and included. We have our rules and boundaries she and I. Both agreed and respected or this stops.

The other night she had told me he was in a few towns over on work at a hotel. I playfully sent in our group chat saying she should come see you for a visit. He was nervous and I understand that. My wife really wanted to go and I've told her if I bring something up it's good with me. I'm not going to someone's hopes up and shoot them down. An hour goes by and she says he isn't down. She and I talk in the group chat some more about it. He engaged and talked a little. She talks to him privately text also. She sent him a message saying "you have to make up your mind". About 30 minutes later he responded. He sent his hotel address and # in the group chat. I got excited "She is getting ready" I say back. He said he was excited and said Thank you.

She leaves and goes to him. Text me when she gets there also. She got there late, pass what I wanted to be but he was indecisive on having her come. She knocked on the door and what she told me she pretty much jumped on him and started making out before taking it to the bed. She said he was nervous and excited. She told me he started by eating her and playing with her. She was all ready to go from the excitement and build up. He respected my rules and came on her back. She said he was done quickly fast and probably due to the excitement and thinking about it before he pulled the gun and told her to come over. I get that. She said he was trying for round 2 but wasn't going to happen.

Sent me a fantastic sound clip.

Sent me a message on the way home.

She comes home and I'm just laying in the bed waiting to hear about it. I drank a bottle of champagne and smoked a few bowls.

She sits and talks to me about it, everything how she started and how he took her. She definitely enjoyed it and I'm happy for her. Makes me happy in a odd way.

I sat there thinking about it while she talked to me about the details . A few goes by and she rolls over and I just started having my turn with her. It was so hot. I was taking her and talking all kinds of dirty to her. She was loving it. I was enjoying every minute of this whole thing. Some of the best sex ever we have had. Im glad she got to enjoy herself more too. Allowing freedom and knowing is great and good for me. Her talking to me about it is awesome. I think it was finally 3am when we got done. I definitely took care of her a few times. Let her sleep in this morning. Took our son out to the park for 4 hours and sat around the trees thinking while smoking a joint. Remember to take time to process everything. Make sure it all comes in smoothly and discuss any issues you make have or feel.

Remember to talk openly and discuss everything, all details. Talk about the what ifs and weird thoughts you may have, it helps to talk.

Respect your partner and have trust.

Rules and boundaries and not to be taken as a joke. All sides need to agree and respect 100%. Make a list apart and discuss together. See what works and what doesn't. Be open explain why a rule does line up with what you have.

This has honestly helped bring us closer on a different level. It's been with her for 11 years

I've fully trusted her with everything before but now it's another level.

My wife likes the attention she was recently receiving from this new man she had meet during work. She gets some pleasure from it and I enjoy seeing her happy and like this. Is that weird?

She text him and also will show me what they talk about and we have a group chat for sexy pictures being sent. During the start of this I had rules and she agreed and had some also. Totally fine. We communicate and are open, zero issues within our relationship.

We have some of the best sex now, since we have been together 11 years. We have Also talked about other fantasies we have and want to explore. She wants MFM and I'm ok with it as I want FFM and she is open and wants to try that to.

Why does this turn me on? Why does talking and fantasizing make us have more deeper hot sex?

I understand then get boring and this seems to spice it up.

My question is anyone have tips or advice?

Rules we have

Condom required

No degrading or abuse stuff to her

No solo unless other partner is involved

I have told her I want to watch her with him first and her to bri me in. I get along with the other also and her passed vibe check ✅