u/Opening_Particular98

NBA Player, Dylan Harper, played in the NBA finals last year as a rookie. He's gonna be one of the better players in the league for years to come with the chance to earn hundreds of millions of dollars in the next decade.

Money and Status..

This is for all the guys (a lot of guys) that think having money, status, social proof, power,

will automatically net you long lasting relationships with women who want to be with you or guarantee that women will stay with you.

Guys think that because it's EASY. It's easier to get your money up and follow the quantifiable model of success that society advertises rather than developing the emotional control, intelligence, self identity, standards, confidence, leadership skills, decisiveness and social skills that women actually find sexually appealing.

Money, Status,Power, “Social Proof” will not get you what you are looking for with women, folks.

Obviously, I made a post about how social proof does nothing to attract women and responses came.

Here's this one. Let me break it down.

First, women are socially motivated and one of the biggest reasons is attention. Women want attention.

More specifically, non sexual attention.

In an ideal world, a woman would have a man she is HIGHLY sexually attracted to and horny for that commits to her long term.

In most cases, she has to pick one though. The guy she is sexually attracted to probably won't stick around or make sense long term and the guy she usually commits to is a guy she settles for.

So a girl in a party, seeing you talk and mingle, she simply sees a guy that she can get attention from in a social setting with other people.

Not to say she can't look at you talking and be attracted but it's not because of "social proof". She's just attracted.

Attraction is natural, it can't be controlled.

That's what a lot of pickup artists mistake and think they can control attraction and do all these techniques to manipulate but it's futile.

It's also why trying to gain social proof is UNATTRACTIVE.

You're trying to get people to like you just to pass a "sniff test" so a woman will notice you and like you. Seeking validation isn't going to make her panty wet and desire you.

If the goal is just speaking to her, go ahead.

Social proof is USELESS once you have her. Now, you have to flirt with her and build sexual tension then escalate to get two alone and see if she is still down to f&*( when you're alone and no one else is there.

So that's some insight.

Last week, I was answering a guy that was trying to get into a relationship with a girl after knowing her for three months and I got a bunch of replies.

I could go on all day about this topic so here we go with this guy's reply to me.

Yeah...NO

You need to 12-18 months to vet a woman for her to become your girlfriend.

When a girl asks "what are we", It's either

1. She doesn't like YOU and is in it for the RELATIONSHIP and you're a convenient means to that end. One reason why vetting for 12-18 months is necessary because you want the girl to show High interest consistently over a long period of time before she becomes your girlfriend. Hint, if she DOESN'T really like you that way, SHE WON'T and you'll get that question/ultimatum.

2. You are giving her boyfriend energy so she is expecting you will become her boyfriend.

Having long conversations when you just met, flowers, dinners, talking on the phone a lot, staying the night after sex when you just met. Good morning texts. BOYFRIEND ENERGY

3. You're manipulating her and faking it to so you can get sex. This is where that can backfire on you. No other explanation needed (at least I hope so).

Girls know how to keep it casual if you do.

The girls asking you that question is the same girl getting dicked down by a fuck buddy every 2 weeks and not asking any questions.