Hey guys, Im 21 and am still a freaking AFC withvirtually no experience with girls and women and im sick and tired of this. i tried looking around for people like "dustin" or "grimble" and idk what to do about it..
is there anyone who can help this AFC?
i just know no one and idk what to do about it.
(oh sorry i didnt mention that im from india)
Hello guys, this was the most interesting and sickkk day so far.
I have a lot to say, but before I start, I want to thank u/My_Pickup_Journey for his advice and the way he gives me motivation, which has helped me become more sociable.
So, here are the most important things that happened on Day 2:
From mid-morning to noon, I saw a group of 5 girls playing cards. I knew one of the girls as a friend, so I did not overthink it and just went in. I did not ask something like, “Can I play with you?” I grabbed a chair, sat down, and told them to start playing together.
As we were starting, another group of 5 sat down with us, and we all played together.
We played a game that took a lot of time, and I won. While we were playing, I tried to control the frame and the way the game was moving in order to demonstrate high value, and it worked. Whenever I said something, even if it was not important, all 10 people paid attention and listened to me.
While we were talking during the game, I found a target who was one of my friends whom I had known for about a year. I used both a neg and a compliment on her.
After that, we went back to the houses from around 3 to 5 for the afternoon. I slept for a little while, but when I woke up, I learned a bit about hypnosis. I think I am ready to hypnotize someone. I have not done it before, but I have it in my plans for Day 3.
So here is where it gets interesting.
Tonight, we had a party at the camp. While we were chilling, I went over to the girl I had previously targeted. Four guys were talking to her, and she was with her friend. I went over to the guys because they were asking her to help them find a girl so they could get an Instagram.
I stepped in and told them that they did not need her help and that they should just go and do it themselves. They left, and I felt like I had demonstrated high value.
Then I talked with her for a while. Her friend left, and eventually we went somewhere more private.
We talked for a little while, and then we kissed.
Second day of the challenge, and I already did something with one girl. I am really happy and proud of myself, but I am not satisfied yet.
The previous rule of getting 3 Instagrams does not count anymore, but the goal of 3 is still up.
Tomorrow, I am sure it is going to be an even crazier day, and I will keep you guys updated.
If you have any questions or advice for me, just comment and I will definitely reply!
STAY TUNED!!
OK, I just finished reading the game and I have a few insights. As beneficial as it was, I can’t help but feel that some of these things just don’t work for context. I grew up in the US, but I have been living abroad for a few years now, so the type of people that I am meeting aren’t the standard US type anymore. However, I can still see how some of these tactics work some of the pick ups and openers that style uses just seem a little bit weird. I’ve always done pretty decent with women but I’ve always thought I could do better. Anyway, I wanna know what you guys think. Have you tried the same openers and techniques from the book? Allah has changed since it’s been published so I’m wondering how good is it really.
M29 - corporate guy based out of Noida. Respectful, calm and chilled out.Nightowl. Believe in articulate and clear communication.
This post might be a bit different from people who seek a regular wingmanship to learn and practice game. I'm not, so please don't judge.
I'm rather looking for a mature minded, chill wingman to safely explore Delhi/Gurgaon adult nightlife (Sahara mall and nearby pubs etc.) together while having each others backs.
Happy to explore across NCR with mutual agreement and comfort. I heavily value privacy and discretion.
Today was the first day of the challenge and the start of summer camp.
Here is what I did for Day 1:
- First, I focused on building social proof by meeting new guys and making new friends.
- All day, I was scanning the venue for targets, but because I have high standards, I didn't find any.
I'm okay with that, but I failed to follow today's rules (getting 3 Instagrams and avoiding overthinking).
I didn't get a single Instagram today. I wanted to get a feel for the lay of the land first so I can play better tomorrow.
I overthought things once when I had the chance to talk to a set of 4 who were sitting close to us, right after one of my new friends asked me to check out his target.
I had planned to use the "jealous friend" opener.
Tomorrow, I will try to be as social as possible and aim to get 3 Instagrams.
Day 2 will be interesting because we are having a party.
The methods I learned from Mystery and The Game work much better there than in day game.
If you have any questions or advice for me, I'd appreciate it.
Stay tuned for Day 2!
how can make my ex come back ?
personality trait of hers - strong opinions, narcissistic , avoidant, egoistic, was madly in love is starting phase , asexual
I (M52) cold DMd her (F25) HB9 on Spicy Match after seeing a post she made. We started chatting and it got flirty and sexual quick with her as a very willing contributor. She began sending pics and videos and after a full day of chatting on the SM app she proposed moving to WhatsApp. I disclosed my true age early since it doesn’t match my SM profile. She asked me if I often date girls in their 20s and I said yes. She also told me her Scandinavian country has the highest ratio of women to men and Scandinavia.
Two more days of continuous day-long conversation including sexual talk and pics and videos from her “alone time” as well as two long voice calls which she proposed. She said she didn’t look good enough for a video call just yet and I didn’t protest.
We started making plans for me to visit in the spring and to take a spicy holiday together, hence Spicy Match.
Then on day 3 she cooled off a little bit with no phone calls and much more infrequent texting throughout the day, less baby names like babe and honey and I matched the vibe myself to not be needy. Toward the end of the day we were texting and I said “you’re a bit distant today” and “if you need to talk about anything I know you will because we communicate so well…” she said she was overwhelmed with life and not feeling social but nothing to do with me. I didn’t push at all of course but especially since to that point she is in fact a very articulate and detailed communicator.
She is in a Scandinavian country six hours ahead.
Middle of the night after day 2 she messages me that she can’t sleep, she’s cranky but doesn’t want to call or chat long. She’s going to a day party the next day with her gf.
Next morning I wake up to two selfies from her looking great, I tell her she looks great and to try and smile today and she says thanks baby.
No messages or pics the whole day from her day party. I obviously didn’t message her at all.
Then today, morning of day 4 I wake up to see some notifications from her in WhatsApp which include 4 pics and two videos presumably from the day party yesterday. This was at 5am my time and 11am her time or 7 hours ago.
I haven’t opened the chat yet. Because she froze me out yesterday and partially completely the day before I’m backing off and don’t plan to open the chat for another six hours.
Self-assessment: in Mystery Method lingo, we built way too much comfort compared to attraction. I did spend quite a bit of time telling her about my cool hobbies and adventures (attraction) however she spent a lot of time telling me about family and her difficult childhood which had me listening and empathizing (comfort).
With too much comfort and not enough attraction I am liable to end up in the Friend zone, I would rather cut it off than have that happen.
After today’s freeze out, how should I proceed to save the situation?
All expert advice welcome.
PS as I’m writing this she double texted with “Hope you’re all right ❤️” since this is the longest she hasn’t heard from me in 4 days.
PPS: she knows I’m recovering from Achilles tendon surgery and that I’m pretty much bedridden so getting quick replies from me was understandable and easily explained. In fact the opposite would’ve been deceitful and strange.
How would you guys go about approaching girls that are practically speed walking?
Any time im at the mall going for approaches the solo girls seem to be power walking making it feel impossible to catch up. Do I literally just make myself look silly and run up to them? Or is there another approach?
One of the toughest parts about game is knowing what truly is attractive. I need a role model (movie character), to understand/visualize what good game looks like. This is harder than it sounds because Hollywood and the media have presented men in a bad way, further promoting their feminist agendas. So young may watch Hollywood today and get a confused idea of what is truly attractive. They talk about what is masculine or what is not masculine, or toxic masculinity, and one would become crazy like me trying to understand it all.
I will give you a few example of different types of characters I have observed in film:
The quite, shy, calm type. Picture peter parker type in spiderman, he is quite, shy and sometimes awkward, and somehow they make it look like this type win's the girl. In real life, women might walk over these types of men, as they seem not very masculine.
Maverick in the original top gun. I used to think this was the ultimate person to try to be. Tom Cruise, had the look, the sunglasses, the playful humor dialogue, and he was the type that is not afraid to approach the woman in a bar, as you saw. I would call this confident masculine energy. Another example is ryan gosling in crazy stupid love, very similar. Some women would characterize these types as "arrogant or show off", and would prefer a peter parker type. Today women might call this toxic masculinity.
Denzel Washington in American Gangster. You ever seen the scene, where he approaches Eva. Denzel is very confident/masculine energy, but also not show off or humor. Some women might find this approach boring unless you are a very powerful man already.
Al pacino in Scarface. This is an interesting one. Al Pacino would not take no for an answer from Elvira. In the real world, al pacino might get a restraining order.
adam sandler in 50 firs dates. This is a classic romance comedy, where its all humor, humor, humor. Some women are drawn to humor, however, I've also heard women who are drawn to humor are not necessary sexually into you either, so that's risky in the real world.
Help me out here.
I have this very annoying situation that happens to me where it is pissing me off. There is this woman at my gym that rejected me last year in front of her stupid boyfriend at the gym and ever since then I have avoided her and wanted nothing to do with her. I have even tried changing times to avoid seeing her at gym. For some reason she comes to the gym at the same time's I show up, and I don't understand why she always walk's around nears me or purposely goes and works out around me. It pisses me off because she is wearing very provocative clothing with her boobs hanging out, and many times I tried closing my eyes around her. She distracts my workout that I try whatever possible to avoid ever looking at her, yet she keeps invading my field of vision and walking near me. I feel like she is trying to trap me (get attention), and it pisses me off. Why the hell do women do this? Do they have anything better to do.
Why the fuck do they try to get your attention if they already rejected you, like leave me the fuck alone you crazy woman. I feel like she is trying to set me up to get me kicked out, like all messed up women. She is a latina woman (who acts like a typical annoying miami girl baddie wearing her bathing suit outfit to the gym with her boobs hanging out) in seattle washington gym.
I don't want to sound like an asshole because there was a time when a post like this would piss me off. But this is a real dilemma she constantly needs sex like all the damn time. She is no stranger to almost forcing it.
I'm not sure if I look like a simp when I give in or should I just try to keep up. A week ago I fucked her to the point where she was so sore she could not physically do it but still hinted that she would if she could.
She also has a very very anxious attachment style.
I need an OG or someone that knows what he's really doing to explain what the hell is going on
This past weekend I was talking to two girls, and I pretty much had it in the bag with one of them. Then this guy comes over and interrupts. Apparently he'd been buying her drinks earlier that night. He completely ignored me and started making moves on her.
He was not doing well at all. She was being polite and indulging him, and I could tell he genuinely believed he had a shot. Then he asked for her Snapchat (amateur move, btw). She got super awkward, pulled out her phone, and was clearly stuck between adding him and trying to find a way out of it without being rude.
He said something like, "I'm just trying to be nice." That's when I started messing with him. I started saying stuff like, "Aren't you going to be nice to me too? Why don't you ask for my Snapchat?" He got visibly deflated but still tried to save it, mumbling, "You're not really my..." so I said something like "What, I'm not your type to be nice to?" By this point, both girls were laughing hard at him.
I could see him break. He looked genuinely sad, almost like he was about to cry (the guy seemed around 35–40). He just said, "OK, I see how it is," and walked away with his head down.
It's been days, and I still feel a little bad about it.
On one hand, he was technically there "first", he'd been buying her drinks all night, and even though she wasn't interested, she kept letting him do it without ever saying anything. I'm not a fan of women stringing a guy along for free drinks.
On the other hand, I can't stand guys who barge in like that mid convo.
So I would like to hear your opinion. Was I the bad guy here? Should I have just let him do his thing without interrupting? What would you say is the best way to handle these situations?
Hi, David here!
Too often I see the promotion of the No Contact Rule (cutting off all contract with a person) as a Machiavellian way of purposely inciting anxiety in another person to exploit their mind’s fear of loss in order to make them come back to you. While this can work with people who are addicted to needing external validation and wanting what they can’t have, its not useful for forming healthy long-term relationships.
You attract what you are. If you play validation games, you will attract other people who play games. And these are not the types of people with which you can build a healthy relationship.
Rather than playing games, you should instead become a person who actually has enough of a full and interesting life that you are not making that other person your sole focus. Shift your focus from trying to please another person to instead focusing on improving your own life.
Women often lose interest in a guy who they find as too easy, not a challenge, who seems desperate, smothers them with attention, tries to get too serious too fast, or makes her the primary focus of his life.
Most women want to be invited along as an accompanying member to a man’s already awesome life rather than being the sole focus of the man’s life. Focus on building a life that others would want to join.
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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!
I decided to give it away for free for the time being.
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The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).
You can get the eBook by clicking here!
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This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!
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What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?
Let's discuss in the comments :)
Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!
Coach David
Yo what's up guys I'm looking for a day game partner in NYC to try to get laid. I'm going out tomorrow Wednesday 8/12 but I'm fine with meeting people to go out gaming in the future. I'm 20 years old btw but I'm fine with going out with older dudes.
If you're interested let me know!
Approached 20 women or more.
Groups and singles.
Most of them were bigger/older than me.
When I say bigger I mean either taller or like got like big boobs and ass in good sense.
Anyway I decided to approach all don’t care how intimidating.
And I did.
Got zero results - at least five of them didn’t stop.
My brain kind stopped and all my openers were excuse me/hi I just wanted to say I like your outfit.
Most just straight up said I have boyfriend.
Got like maybe 3 convos but really tough ones because I feel like I stressed while I looked at their face because I understood their micro expressions of initial disinterest and surprised.
Non of the convos felt good so I bailed and got back to my friend group.
I’m quite disappointed of myself that all I could think of was compliment on outfit and generic convos like guess where they from asking for their name and asking for opinion for better place to hang and as such.
Seems important to explain it is famous street with many people in it with a lot of clubs and bars with a lot of hot women.
How would a pro acted?
Ok just got unmatched for the most ridiculous thing again on hinge. I’m trying to understand the woman psyche but it’s frustrating as hell to be wasting time texting.
Who wants to join an insta or WhatsApp group where we give advice on texting. Call me what ya want u just wanna improve.
I recently went to a hospital for a checkup and the intern who examined me was really beautiful. I wanted to ask for her number that day, but we barely had any conversation outside of the checkup, so I chickened out.
A few days later, I went back with my friend for his appointment. While he was inside with the doctor, I was just waiting outside. Her department was different, but on the same floor. By coincidence, I saw her walking alone in the corridor. There was no one else around us, so I called out, "Excuse me."
She stopped and waited.
Me: "Hey, good morning."
Her: "Good morning, sir."
I made some small talk about my previous checkup and asked a couple of random questions. She answered everything, and we talked for about 2 to 3 minutes.
Then I said, "If you don't mind, can I get your number?" I don't use Instagram, so I just asked for her number. I also didn't want to ask for something like LinkedIn since that felt even weirder.
She replied, "Sorry, we're not allowed, sir."
I jokingly said, "Who's gonna snitch?" I regret saying that.
She looked more confused than anything, like she didn't hear or understand what I said, and just replied, "Sorry."
I smiled and said, "Never mind, thank you," and walked away. She gave me a small smile as I left.
Looking back, how could I have handled this better? Was asking for her number okay, or should I have done something differently?
Also, my friend has another appointment soon and asked me to come with him again. If I go and happen to see her, should I just ignore her and let it be, or would it be normal to just smile and say "Hi" if we make eye contact?
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Hello everyone! I am looking for a wingman and if you would also like to have a cool wingman somehwere in EU keep reading.
What I can do for you
I will motivate you to take action. Having someone to hold you accountable is the best way to push yourself and get better results.
I can make it fun. What I mean by that is that doing pickup together with a friend is much more fun. Even if you fail or I fail we can joke about it, not take it too seriously and keep going. You can count that I will have your back.
Also, when we have set 2 on 2, I will keep in mind to make you look cool and important in interactions.
Currently, I am not in a situation where I urgently need a wingman, but I know I will need someone at some point (probably in late autumn). So I just want to meet some of you, develop some relationships in this community and see who is the best fit for me.
I am really looking forward to this journey and fun times.
If this sounds intresting to you feel free to reach out, looking forward to hearing from you!
Okay so I decide I don’t want to be puas
Don’t won’t to go to place to hit on women
I want to focus on becoming wealthy and achieving my body (I’m so close) and then I want them to be side quest so when I go on meeting and see someone I’ll approach without pressure.
But I don’t gimmicks like opinion shit and stuff like that but i ain’t tall and not 9-10 by my face so just doing direct doesn’t work.
What would you suggest for me?
Please if needed ask me more questions I just want to do it in healthy way (I ain’t scared of approaching )