Lost twins at 18 weeks: Sent to pathology in shock, can we change our minds for a funeral? ON, CA
My heart is completely broken typing this. After years of hard work and trying, my partner and I just lost our twin babies at 18 weeks, only two days ago. We are devastated.
When it happened, we were just in total shock. We didn't have the mental or emotional strength to figure out what to do next, so when the hospital asked, we just told them to transfer our babies to the pathology department.
Now that a couple of days have passed and the initial shock is wearing off, we are deeply second-guessing that decision. We don’t have any elders or family around to lean on or guide us through this, so we feel completely lost. We’re agonizing over whether we made the right choice, or if we should try to arrange a funeral so we can properly say goodbye.
I'm hoping to hear from anyone who has been through a similar late loss:
- Did you choose to hold a funeral/cremation for your babies, or did you let the hospital handle it?
\- If you initially sent them to pathology, were you able to change your mind a few days later and get them back for a service? We are so scared that it might already be too late.
We just want to do right by our two sweetest souls. Thank you so much for reading.