u/Otherwise_Essay_4580

This is just to vent. I don’t know if I’m angry or just sad I don’t get to have the naivety of pregnancy ever again.

My angel baby was born on Feb 25 at 21 weeks. We TFMR due to q22 with severe heart defects that were incompatible with life. Her due date is July 5th so it is all weighing heavily on me this week. We have been TTC since but haven’t been successful yet.

A month ago my brother in law and his wife told us they are pregnant. Of course I am happy for them but it’s a hard reminder of the daughter we lost. Their baby will be due in mid January so she is around 12 weeks right now. Last night they sent us an invitation to their baby shower in mid August- she will only be 18 weeks. I am shocked they are having the shower so early- before their anatomy scan.

Do they not understand what happened to us at the anatomy scan? Feels a little insensitive? I don’t know. Just needing to process and writing it down helps.

TW: LC

My TFMR baby, Aria, was born at 21 weeks on Feb 25, 2026. Her due date is coming up on July 5. We took a couple cycles before trying again. My first cycle I ovulated on day 19, my 2nd cycle I ovulated day 17, this cycle I ovulated day 14. Today I got my period again despite baby dancing 6 times before/during ovulation. Both my LC and TFMR baby were conceived on the first cycle trying. I know that is lucky and unusual but it makes me feel like something is wrong now that we have had two unsuccessful cycles trying.

How long did it take to conceive after your TFMR L&D? How do you handle this TTC chapter after loss? I am struggling so much.

I had my TFMR in late Feb. Ive been tracking ovulation using OPKs since my period returned in late March. My first cycle I got peak fertility on cycle day 19 and on my second cycle it was cycle day 17. Now this cycle I just got peak fertility on cycle day 14. Has anyone else had a similar experience? does this mean my cycle is more back to normal this time?